Hello,
Life, they say is in " levels and people are in phases". Life is progressive, whether we know it or not. Whether we like it or not, aging is real. These are the realities of life. Those that are younger today, gets older in few years in front. So long as they are still alive in the land of the living. Life is good.
The only difference is that some individuals are aging faster than necessary because they lack some necessities of life to keep them moving. while some others know the right meals and other medications suitable to slow down their aging processes because they have the money, and can afford whatsoever quality foods, suppliments and medications despite the cost effectiveness. The rich and wealthy are equal to the tasks than the poor.
Heehee..., Can you see, money speaks.
Little wonder, youths today, become actually the elderly ones just in few years ahead, there's no running away or escaping from this natural phenomenon. So long as one is still living. Every living soul must one day become the elderly, therefore it calls to mind on how we treat them now because one day it's going to be our own turn, period.
My story here today is a real life situation that's even on going in my neighborhood since some weeks or like say, some months now. I live in the visinity where everyone knows what is happening in the next compound, we know each other, it's a lovely community.
I know an elderly woman, she's in her ninetees plus years of age right now, a ( nonagenarian ). All her children came together to discuss a way forward about her well being recently. This is a beautiful way to support her to live longer and better.
They are 8 sibling adults, 4 ladies as same as men. Her last born girl, having just got married few weeks ago, a vacuum was created as for who will take up the challenge of a total care giving for her.
Frankly, both of them had lived together for a very long time. All her elderly sisters are married, some even are grand mothers. This meeting for three times yielded little or no promising results,
Her three elderly sisters gave excuses why they are not capable of taking a total care of her. The family now resorted to hiring a care giver but couldn't find anyone interested. Her eldest son and wife took up the challenge but later declined after some tryouts because it's like a complete day's job. She now almost behaves like children.
Agenders They Set To Better Her Life Are;
- MEDICAL CHECK UPS:
They invited a laboratory technician who checked every aspect of her body by taking some of her samples and discovered she had higher sugar intake level which has made her urinating more frequently, most times, before getting to the supposed place to do it, she would have messed up both the place she was and even her cloth and body together.
It was a huge problem to everyone, they consulted a laboratory technician who checked her and dygonised her sugar is higher than normal. Some medications were applied. Both drugs and injections.
She was advised to reduce much sugar treats and intake. Which she agreed to apply with.
HER LIVING ROOM RENOVATED:
Her children decided to make some changes to her living room by renovations that took place last week, the wall of the living room scrapped down and was painted for freshly looks. The living room is better now than it was then. It's suitable even for others to stay around or with her, unlike before, everywhere was looking over crowded with lots of loads, even some properties that were not relevant, were not let go.HER ROOM RE-ARRENGED:
Just take a look of all loads from her apartment of two rooms and a parlour. Everything were taken outside from her apartment and are to be re-arrenged later. Irrelevant properties evaquated.
4.TURN BY TURN CARE GIVING BY HER DAUGHTERS:
She doesn't eat much, but a little time she will demand for another type of food or that same food she just rejected not long ago. After some weeks, her first daughter got tired of visiting, another meeting was held. She asked others to take over caring for her.
Since there was no paid care giver immediately yet, the first daughter comes daily to cook, bath her, clean her apartment, sleep over with her and administer her medicine daily whenever she dims fit, since she lives in a closer community than her other sisters. She did that for only two weeks, stopped and demanded the second daughter should take over.
- THE SECOND DAUGHTER LIVING IN A FAR DISTANCE;
The second daughter whose turn it is to take care of her aged mother now decided to take her to her own home because of a farther distance. She came up with a bus carried her with her bed, box of clothes. And some of her essentials so that she can stay up for some months in her own home with her husband and children. That's where she is currently staying right now.
It's not an easy job to render care for the elderly parents, seeing what this family are under going for just to take adequate care of their aged mother.
Moreover, her type that is very brash by the way she talks to those taking care of her. She shows up some
Immaturity towards most of her children rendering some helps to her. Like, you just gave her some food now, she will begin immediately demanding for another kind you should have cooked. Rejecting the one you just presented, even after asking what she wanted before the cooking commenced.
Give her a perfect soup and swallow, she will reject it and opt for watery soup instead. Very laughable indeed, 😂. Just like a child now... She forgets almost everything immediately. Many things are lost through her because she can't remember what happened to them.
She is constantly demanding for beef (meat) at every given meals which is not so comfortable for her care givers all the time. She will as well demand for beer or spirits at this age to drink. If that's denied her, trouble will ensure. Too many excesses, it needs lots of endurance to stay with the elderly.
Oh my, my, my, it's a hard task but must be done properly. Because in the nearest future we will be also in their shoes.
In the Nigerian culture, the children of the elderly must take good care of their aged parents, even if they poo on themselves, there's no running away from this culture. It's the total responsibility of their children to do. They may hire someone to take care of them or they do it themselves.
In conclusion,
These siblings to me has done very well by all these efforts yielding fruits gradually.
We owe the elderly our care and quality support in a time of their aging, they sacrificed their youthfulness for us. One day, we all shall age like they are now.
Thank you, I'm very delighted to see your comments and votes. Keep it up, i appreciate you all.
All pictures are mine captured by my Tecno spark 8 phone camera.