I don't think it's good to have an abortion.
YOU CONTROLLIN' MAH BODIES
Nope. Am not.
Not trying to stop you. Not trying to prosecute.
But I can judge you for it. You can become less good in my mind because of it.
It's like if I see you pollute or yell at kids or shoot a squirrel. Or keep a cow locked in a little pen where you rape her for her milk and kill her offspring for their flesh. I can have my judgment about what's good and what's bad without thinking that a crime occurred or that it's my business to stop it.
Often I think there's a false dichotomy between "abortion should be illegal" and "abortion is fine".
It shouldn't be illegal, but it's also not fine.
There are a range of things that are undesirable and bad and should be discouraged and socially frowned upon where you don't necessarily think a crime occurred.
Eating too much trans fat is sort of an example.
Shouldn't be illegal, but you're nuts if you advocate it.
I probably wouldn't judge an aborter in an all-encompassing sort of way.
It'd be an aspect of them and a thing that happened. But people aren't defined by one thing that they did.
What's important is more the attitude you have about it.
So my critique and points here aren't targeted at woman. It can just as easily go for men.
If you had an abortion once but it was a tough situation and you had your reasons and took it seriously and feel bad or murky about it, that seems rather benign.
Having a cavalier or encouraging or even glorifying or empowering attitude about it is gross and problematic.
There's nothing to support or encourage.
Having loose sex and aborting human life isn't a cycle people come out of feeling wonderful. That's not a good recipe that you should try to draw people into.
You might support specific people in specific moments. Maybe there are times where the dynamics are complicated and you understand why they did it, or you generally support them because they're your friend.
There are times where Joe kills Bob because Bob hurt Joe's family, and you kind of get it and understand what led to that point, but "murder" as a general word that comes up is still bad and not something you dignify and speak glowingly about.
If you speak glowingly about winning the golf tournament, you're in effect encouraging people to practice golf shots, lift weights, be in shape, etc.
If you speak glowingly about abortion, you're encouraging people to do all the destructive things that cause that outcome.
Our sexual energy is wonderful and beautiful.
You should use it. But there's a sweet spot and a balance to it. If you use it so often or so impulsively that you start needing to have abortions, that's an indication that you went too far and have left the sweet spot.
So if abortion is something that you're okay with, that means corrupting your sexuality (plus maybe having unsafe, unprotected sex) is something you're okay with.
Like when you touch a hot stove. OUCH! Your fingers are gonna fall off if you keep doing that.
Abortion is the ouch.
Even if there are times where, as played, you'd consider it the best way out of a mistake or a bad situation, trying to generally take away the stigma isn't helpful.
You should want to steer people away from it rather than towards it.
The people who glorify or try to remove the stigma from abortion aren't your friends, and they don't support women. Not anymore than calling him a hero because he went and shot people in another country is supporting men.
They're trying to weaponize and use you.
Abortion is bad. Pretty simple.