I wrote this note below to a friend, who made a strong decision to pick her life up (even though much of it truly wasn't her fault I will say and assert) and enter detox which is the first stage of getting treatment (cause you gotta be clean for 2 weeks min). I post this, although it won't seem so humble of me, because I had an insight when I was thinking of what to write...

There are many others that go through these steps that don't have anyone, and that many of their loved ones have turned their backs (often out of necessary to keep their own lives and sanity together). Sometimes even it is their loved ones that abused and neglected them in the first place which drove the person to seek solace in addiction.

I was calling, her sister and mother were calling, and I couldn't help but think about the other girls (and guys) that have to make the decision and journey alone (but with the staff that obviously cares).

So I wrote this knowing that she would certainly leave and share the book and that others would read the sentiments and realize that it is for them as well, and that I care for them even as strangers and that because she left the book its true that she cares for them as well:

"KB

Something to pass the time and bring out some smiles. I'm amazed at the courage and strength you have shown in your decisions AND actions to make it here. Not everyone possesses this kind of fortitude. If you want, when you are finished this stage, you can leave this book for others that have shown the same strength to start THEIR journey. Remember, things get easier and better with time. The present moment is all around you (always!), practice observing it with choiceless awareness. The present moment (rather than thoughts about the past or the future) is truth, and it is truth that sets us free.

Love yourself, and know that there are people that care for you,

With love to you (and for all!)

NM"

Bruce Lee as a Timeless Teach of Strength, Determination, and Willpower

I also will have her leave Bruce Lees book on his philosophy in regard to his martial art. Lee wrote his words to future students so they are very helpful. He writes about will power strength fortitude etc, and being in the present moment. His book is written with notes so its an easy read and something you can just flip through.

My friend said she liked the part where he described a strong stance and how to stand properly in fighting. It dawned on me as I was bringing it, that the book is amazingly perfect for such people and I am sure it will help people there and be cherished by the staff for that.

It's also an incredible introduction to Krishnamurti who teaches how to be in the present moment which helps guard us from our thoughts about the past and the future.

For this its agnostic or neutral in regard to religion which is invaluable for such people IMO.

Sharing is Caring, and Caring is a Path Towards Healing

I realized how she would be sharing the gum and smokes I brought her. I know her; it's obvious. On the phone to me she said, "I was giving it out, I'm sorry" and I'm like, "Come on girl, I knew you would, that's good and nice."

But I also felt a little bad. She got small gifts daily, and for so many people, especially the women, they simply suffer abuse, and then are left alone to pick themselves up. I feel bad that perhaps some girl might watch my friend getting all this nice stuff, and phone calls etc., and some other girl might just have to suffer with no home to go to even if she does make it.

I'll be dropping more gifts off with small notes for strangers in the future, if the staff find it acceptable. It's not so humble of me to write and say this, but it might inspire others and open our eyes to a world we otherwise want to overlook because of convenience.