Hi,
After many dates and several relationships I am still wondering what would be better – an unstable, uncertain and potentially painful type of relationship that is full of passion or a relationship that, although boring and passionless, is safe and stable?!
Kira
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Kira,
The answer depends of course on the individual who asks and his/her choices in life. However, for the one who walks the journey of enlightenment, of personal growth, I would unequivocally say – only a full-passion relationship that may cause pain could guarantee awakening the deeper levels of the soul. Therefore, such a relationship, albeit unstable, is preferred.
After all, what are the grievances one suffers in a relationship, what do the hardships, the misunderstandings and so on, mean if not a clear sign from the aspects of you that have so far been ignored and now want to be recognized and loved. Difficulties and impediments in a relationship help one to grow quickly and therefore should be considered a gift and not at all a symbol for one’s incapacity to be sociable or successful in life.
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If one chooses a stable relationship in which the heart doesn’t enjoy thrills, passion and excitement, then soon enough the alleged stability that the mind indulged itself in will evaporate and the repressed parts of the soul will demand their pound of flesh. A relationship is certainly a meeting place of two individuals and as such compromise is necessary. The important issue, however, is to compromise on the insignificant elements, unimportant for the soul. Passion, feelings, challenges are all ingredients that sustain your life and compromising them is a death sentence for you.
Having said all that you need to know, and this may be a comfort, that at the end of the road awaits a relationship which is drama-free, well balanced, fun and happy (yes! imagine that). For some, a stable relationship means boredom, but I tell you that it's the opposite. Life next to an enlightened loved one, is much richer because it's not only you and the other person taking part in the relationship but your divine selves as well.
And those really know how to party! 😉
So, which is better in your opinion? What would you choose for your self? A relationship with lots of drama or a quiet one?
