How to love without losing yourself.
I discovered this week that I’ve been holding something back from a lot of my clients and readers.
I’ve been holding back expressing all the ways that my relationship with Hemal (my husband) is the kind of love you see in those cheesy romantic comedies.
I was almost afraid to share how happy we are. But I want you to have an example of how a relationship can be a place of true freedom, true connection, true passion — because in your experiences with love thus far, it’s easy to question if this kind of love is possible.
And I want you to know that it is.
Now, this level of love — this daily playful passionate experience I have with my partner
— wasn’t possible for years because I had a huge wall up, or a block to love.
Like many strong, independent women, I was committed to not losing myself in a relationship.
Translation: less than 5 years ago, I was terrified to let Hemal into my heart.
After some digging, I realized that my commitment to freedom was making me feel really alone — even when I was married.
I was still operating as if I was single. As if I had to do it all by myself. So here I was, with a partner ready to give me what I wanted — and I wouldn’t let him.
Subconsciously, I was terrified that if I started to rely on Hemal for anything that would mean I was dependent (which meant I could get hurt).
Why?