I used to do the same… An angry bird I was… But, I had one more habbit, analysing things, experimenting the things I read(If I truely feel they make sense)…
As a part of this analysis, I started thinking about why we get angry, and what actually we want as an outcome of this anger… After sometime, I got to know that, one of the main reasons might be like, we actually want the people around us to understand what we want to convey it seems… When they don't, when they do exactly opposite to it, when they argue in an unfair manner against it or more especially when they don't give importance to what we feel, that is, when they choose not to listen at all, we get angry… That too if they are our closed ones,lol, situation will be like hell!!
My inner self whishpers inbetween- “Hey myself! stop! stop! okie! moto is fine, and its very genuine too! To expect the people to understand your side… I accept! But Did you achieve it through your anger?”. I couldn't ‘yes’, not even ‘no’. Anyhow if it is not a ‘firm yes!', Then what is the point?
Anger is necessary… We should get angry at times, to make sure our self respect is not made fun of, to make sure, our loved ones are not getting hurt in any way… But, think! everytime is it necessary? will this anger is gonna get you what you actually wated to achieve by using it!?
I realized, anger makes the situation even worse… it makes the one who actually is ready(may be) to consider our openion, to take a step back… If the person is not at all ready, even after showing anger, no change will be there... Instead, it gives them a valid reason for not listening… They will tell, ‘empty vessels makes the most noise'. Even if you not empty, anger will make people(especially who is waiting to let you down) take advantage of your emotional imbalance and easily tell about you so…
It keeps a distance between you and your loved ones… More especially it hurts us alot.. after showing anger, even if we have won the argument, we can't feel happy… We will still be irritated and annoyed…
What matters the most at the end of the day is, how much we have progressed in your life, as a person… how much love we have shared… how many people around us felt happiness because of our kindness… These things only are gonna give us peaceful sleep…
When you truely realize this thing, you can easily control your anger! More especially you can use it as a powerful weapon when you need it(rare case)… Because when you least use it, it's value gets increased! Personal experience…!