India is a diverse country with very many castes, religions & beliefs and we all fellow Indians respect the beliefs of one another. But when it comes to marriage, the society and its people lose their shit!
Well, it’s not like arranged marriages are extinct, they do take place, a lot of times with or without the consent of bride and groom. But, the 21st generation now has evolved and tends to go for love marriage rather than arranged for obvious reasons. Not denying the fact that our parents and elders mostly still want us to go for an arranged marriage because they have seen a huge number of those marriages getting successful.
Well, ultimately it is one’s own decision but yes, Indian society does emphasize on getting married after a certain age, usually somewhere in the bracket of 22-28.
I’m no one to say which one’s better and which one’s not, but I’ve brought some hilarious posters for you showcasing the very difference between love and arranged marriages.
We can clearly see what happens initially when two people get married. The difference in the sleeping patterns of the two couples is not hard to analyze.
Food
While, you’ve had a love marriage, the day you don’t feel like eating, you could just order in a pizza and you’d be sorted but if you’re involved in an arranged marriage, you can’t really tell your spouse, without hesitation, that you don’t feel like cooking, they might as well get some food for you.
Freedom
You could really do whatever you feel like while you’re in a love marriage but in an arranged marriage, you really have to abide by a few rules and regulations of the new family(especially if it’s a joint family) you enter into.
Privacy
While you newly had an arranged marriage, you’d be expected to more things involving the whole family. But if you’ve had a love marriage, you already know the whole family and therefore, even take your spouse away without hesitating.
Vacations
Clearly, in an arranged marriage you are too hesitant and shy to say what you’d rather want, out loud. But in a love marriage, you could easily raise your voice since you already are comfortable with their family!
Personal time
After entering into an arranged marriage, the in-laws obviously expect their daughter in-law to take responsibilities of the house and you sometimes do not get enough time for yourself. But, in a love marriage, you could easily talk to your in-laws about the responsibilities you could or could not take upon you.
Gamble
In all honesty, arranged marriage is like a really expensive lottery ticket that you bought with all your life’s savings. If you win, it’d be all rainbows and sunshine but if you lose, you’ll be broke and depressed.
On the other hand, love marriage is comparatively a safe gamble to play, you already know the person you’re going to marry, in and out. Their strengths, weaknesses and nothing really comes as an unwanted surprise.
Dowry
Well, believe it or not, in a lot of places in our country, dowry system still exists and mostly in arranged marriages. Why do you think people kill their girl child just when they are born or even before they are born? Doesn’t female infanticide and foeticide, ring a bell here in your head?
