Many people opt to please others because they are afraid to say “no.” The fear of rejection has caused many individuals to always affirm the opinions of their seniors in the workplace. They agree to take on tasks that they resent to please others. Though it seems that saying “yes” can make an employee to climb the career ladder faster, it can lead to overwork and stress.
Employers like individuals who will not turn down their request. However, you may end up with overload of work if you don’t know how to say “no” appropriately. Such situation can deprive you of your personal time. You may become worn out by the workload and bitter.
Saying “no” appropriately and at the right time will boost your self-esteem. It will also help you to build a successful career. Know when to push back on others’ requests. Tasks that are unrelated to your goal can distract you from achieving your purpose in life. These activities can consume your time, reducing your productivity to below expectation.
You can’t deliver you tasks excellently when you try to please others. Such outcome will shake your confidence and affect people’s perception of your competence. The following tips will enable you to determine when to say “no.”
Rank your priorities
Identifying your personal priorities will help you decide when to say “no.” Arrange your tasks in order of importance. Don’t take unrelated tasks if they will distract you from delivering on your job. Also, consider the time you need to carry out the activities.
Know your limits
Don’t exceed your boundaries to please others. Decide on the things that are good for you. Your strength, health, preference, values and comfort, will enable you to determine the activities you may engage in. Reflecting on past situations will help you to make better decisions.
Your feelings can be helpful in setting limits. Don’t take up tasks you resent or feel uncomfortable performing them. Firmly and politely say “no” when you feel that an individual wants to take advantage of you.
Avoid overload
Check your workload before doing “favors” to others. Say “no” if engaging in extra activities will stretch your capacity and leave you exhausted. An overload can disrupt your mental and physical well-being. It can also affect your personal relationship negatively.
Practice saying “no”
Discerning when to say “no” requires practice and takes time. Be polite and respectful when you refuse to accept tasks from others. Be honest and clearly but briefly explain your reasons for the refusal.
Saying “no” appropriately can help you maintain healthy relationships. However, do not feel guilty when you refuse to take on tasks beyond your limit.