Last year I told myself that I was having issues with always saying "yes" to people even when it's against my will. It was beginning to look like a curse to me. When I lend people my belongings, they come back saying "Sorry".
There's nothing really bad about saying sorry but it got to a point in my life where I got damn tired and ready to do something new in my life to usurp the situation and I was lucky enough to realise that I was the cause of my problems and needed just me to make a difference in my life.
So, before the cross over night into this year. I wrote down my New year resolutions and it was one of the point I was yearning to achieve.
Thank God I achieved it to some extent. I learnt to say "No" finally this year, it was a herculean task saying that (I never thought I'll ever be to able to say that in my life) it feels like a dream come through.
Before, the ordinary me will easily be influenced by someone giving me thousands of reasons why I should change my mind and take up his/her own opinion or suggestions.
Even my friends notice it, some weeks ago, a friend told me about a picnic that we promised ourselves not to miss it this year and it happened that a day to the picnic she reminded me about our scheduled date but to her dismay, she met her waterloo when I said "No" that I wasn't going to attend.
― Anna Taylor said and I quote
“Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept.”
At first she thought I was joking, but then I kept on persisting and she knew at some point that I was really serious about it. She was surprised and left me for the picnic.
After some days, she came back to tell me how she felt sad, lonely and disappointed all through the picnic with weird people that weren't just her type. At that point, I had to open up to her and tell her the truth which is that I was working on myself to learn to say "No" a lot more.
Thanks for my new year resolutions, it helped me immensely and I'm so grateful I mustered up courage to stick to whatever I believed was right for me.
Now, we are human and most times people come to sway and influence us with their opinions and when we don't have plans or a say for yourselves, you keep helping others actualise their dreams. That decision has helped me and I want someone out there to imbibe this idea of sticking to what you believe in.
I see a lot of people, they live their lives pleasing people and I wonder if they don't have their own goals, purpose and pursuits. They always succumb to whatever that goes. Some times you end up doing that without deriving your maximum satisfaction and working like some sort of robot who does whatever it's being told.
Let today mark a new beginning for you. Give yourself permission to say NO without feeling guilty, mean, or selfish. Anybody who gets upset and/or expects you to say YES all of the time clearly doesn’t have your best interest at heart. Always remember: You have a right to say NO without having to explain yourself. Be at peace with your decisions.”
― Stephanie Lahart
I want anyone reading this to look at him/herself and discover where friends come in to sway and influence their decisions and also put a stop to it. You have all the power in the world to choose to say "Yes" or "No"
LEARN TO SAY NO A LOT MORE!
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STILL @VINTAGEVERVE