Earning the trust of the people around is a very underappreciated quality that if paid enough attention to, can help us in every aspect of life. By having the trust of our family, we can focus on providing for them and enjoy every moment with them. With the trust of our colleagues and managers, we can have more energy to focus on our work and maximize productivity, which leads to greater morale in the workplace. And by gaining the trust of our friends and acquaintances, we create an aura of ease and positivity that others enjoy being around. To earn the trust of the people around us, it is important to develop a deep trust in ourselves, cultivate a great forgiving mind, and have the benefits of others in mind. Today, I’d like to discuss how easy it is to do this, once we make a few simple adjustments to our attitude and the way we think.
Trusting Ourselves
We must first learn to trust ourselves before we can expect others to do the same towards us. When we ourselves are not assured about the things we do, say and think, how can we expect others to feel assured about us too? The first adjustment we must make is to develop the habit of keeping our word, even to ourselves. When we say we are going to do something, we must do it; otherwise, don’t say it. When we create the habit of constantly going against what we say or making excuses for ourselves, we will do the same to others, which takes away the strength of our word. Consequently, others’ trust in us diminishes.
Not only should we trust what we say, we must also trust how we think; our values, principles, and thought processes. When we are consistently unsure of ourselves and always full of doubt, we will have no confidence in our decision making, which can be sensed by others through our body language, speech, and energy. When we do not have the confidence of others, it will influence the effectiveness of everything we do. To trust how we think, our mind must encompass the interests of others. A person who only thinks for themselves has a small mind, very inward-focused energy, and will not feel considered by others; he will not have the trust of others. However, if a person thinks beyond just themselves, their mind expands, their energy is vast, and others will feel within that person’s care and consideration. Such a person can trust their thinking because they have others at heart. Even if they make mistakes, they will learn from it, and others will forgive them because they are trying their best.
Deep Forgiveness
Another key element to earning others’ trust is to create transparent relationships with others. To develop a transparent connection with our family, friends, colleagues, and even ourselves, we must first learn to forgive. Forgiveness is to deeply accept the past, making peace with it, and then let go of the burden, so we do not bring it into the present. It is unavoidable that as imperfect human beings with differing views, we will sometimes create misunderstandings, make mistakes, and have disagreements.
To firstly forgive ourselves is the only way to move on from pain to pleasure, from darkness to light and from negativity to positivity. To do so, we must have a deep understanding in what we’ve done and how we feel, to acknowledge that we cannot change the past, to learn from our experience, and to use them as tools for spiritual growth and personal development. With such an attitude, we can truly make peace with our past, practice self-love, and feel that no matter what, we will be okay. This is how we learn to trust our self through forgiveness.
To earn the trust of others, we must take down the barriers that cause separation between them and us. Only when we can truly trust others can we expect others to have faith in us and it begins with forgiving others. What others have done to us, they did so from a position of confusion, anger, or pain. Their actions are a reaction to their feelings and emotions, and we should not take them personally. When we acknowledge that what others have done, are doing and will do are simply reactions to their mental states, we naturally develop compassion which breeds forgiveness.
Forgiveness is a natural state when we stop taking things personally, and this happens when we realize that everyone is fighting their own battles, that everyone has their own problems, and no matter how things look on the outside, things are never perfect on the inside. When we forgive others, we bridge the separation, we bring them into our hearts and accept their imperfections as normal human qualities. Over time, when we consistently abide in such a forgiving mental state, we will find that our relationships with others will become purified, healthier, and happier; inevitably, trust will arise.
The Mind of Benefiting Others
As discussed earlier, it is difficult to truly trust a person who only thinks of themselves, or who does not have your interest at heart. In order to earn the trust of others, we must cultivate a mind that sincerely cares for the wellbeing of others. Only then will they feel considered and be in a position to trust us. However, developing a mind of benefiting others can be a very daunting and difficult task because we may ask, “what’s in it for us?” But once we experience just how much joy and happiness we create for ourselves and those around by generating such a mind, wanting to benefit others will come naturally.
In the beginning, it may seem challenging to expand our sphere of contemplation beyond a limited circle. How can we think of everyone when we cannot even properly take care of ourselves or our immediate family? It is okay to begin with ourselves and our family, but we must have the intention to want to grow it outwards. It benefits us immensely to think about the wellbeing of our colleagues, acquaintances among others, because having their trust, creating healthy and happy relationships, and promoting a relaxed and harmonious environment, establishes the type of love, joy, and fulfillment that money cannot buy.
Ultimately, we earn the genuine trust of others not through power or authority, but through a mind that encompasses them, that makes them feel cared for and considered.
Conclusion
Earning the trust of our family, friends, colleagues, and everyone around is a quality that benefits every aspect of life, it helps us accomplish our goals and tasks, and it creates positive and fulfilling relationships with the people we care about. To gain trust, we must first learn to trust ourselves by keeping our word and being confident with our principles. Then we must practice deep forgiveness of oneself and others to build transparent relationships. Finally, we should develop a mind that encompasses others as one can only truly trust when they feel they are being considered and cared for. If we can make these adjustments to our attitudes and the way we perceive the people around us, we will naturally become someone who will be trusted by everyone.
Consequently, such a person is loved and cherished all, and everyone enjoys their warm presence and joyful aura. Their energy is bright and illuminating, and their heart is gentle, friendly, and dependable.
May we all become the person that brings light to dark places, delivering a sense of comfort, safety, and peace to the lives of everyone. May we all love and be loved.
Thanks for reading😊
Kind regards,
Byron ❤
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