Good Evening friend today I want to tell about Parents loves for their child because in recent time most of people do not like parents while they become old and they not take care of them well, so this is post for them who not taking care of their parents well.
Love of Parents for their child
When we born at that time happiest person in the world is parents and for them we are their world. Whatever and however we are but for them we are special. When we are very small baby at that time they take care of us very well and not allow us in trouble, though they face all trouble and problem but not let us allow being sad or they can’t see us by crying and this is true and pure love parents for their child. When we don’t know how to walk and how to speak they learn us this thing but when child become elder then they told their parents that you have to behave like this and that but they don’t know who learn these all thing to them.
When child grow and going to schools for study at that time they have not sense that how my parents will pay fees for school and others things but they just want everything and in that age, they don’t know that it’s not affordable by parents but still somehow they buy that thing because parents just want their child happy. If children understand that love of parents in that age then it will be great son. I want to share my own experience that when I was children and my father not earning well but due to my brother exam my father gave one wooden scale to my brother and I seen it so I was crying and told my father that I want too, but my father said not for you now because we can’t afford second one and when your exam come you can use it. But as I want new and at same time I just start to cry more and more and as my dad can’t see us both brother sad he broke it in angriness and said now you both take half and hope you both happy. After some time my mom explained me that you did wrong thing you don’t know how your dad earning and save money for you both but you just want everything anyhow but it’s not good and when you become elder and become father you will know what you did. May be don’t know but I was realised in that time that I did wrong thing and its hurt my father lot and I just give hug to my dad and say sorry and try to join that scale but it’s not able to join but my brother is so good that he still use that scale because he knows what my father doing.
When children grow and start to work and earn to money at that time they know how to earn money and how much hard work to do for small earning and then they can realize that how our parents did work and fulfilled all our things. Sometimes we think it’s easy to earn but it’s not look easy but need hard work. Parents also save money for marriage of children and as he become ready for make new family they give all money or most of money for marriage and as here in India its lot of thing more to do in girl’s marriage as they are father of girl.
In between this if any kind of disease come and need some big money then parents will manage money for it and arrange money for save their children, i see some parents who did lot of things for their children and took money as rent or sold by some precious thing and sometimes they also sold their house because of not enough of money but they want their child come out from trouble because they can’t see their children’s in pain and I wish no one have to face that kind of problem that their parents have to sold everything.
Parents Enter in Old Age
As parents become old they need love of their children and its time for children to take care of parents but I seen many children whose behaviour change after their parents become old and they not want to do anything for their parents and they just want to enjoy by self. They just keeping their parents in old age and then not even go for look that are they OK there or are they satisfied there with facilities. There is not bad to keep them at old age home but it’s also our responsibility to take care them and are they happy there by going regularly.
According to my place here mostly people live with join family and also with parents after marriage too but some live happily and some not like according to situation of them but what I want to tell is when we need love they give us without asking and they always do everything without in return and when they need same love from us then we have to give them instead of ignore them. This is most common problem going on here as they not want to take care of parents.
One Way Traffic
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There is also One way traffic in this kind of problem as one of my friend faces this issue that when she married girl then they living happily with family but she not like my friend parents and always fight in house and miss behave with my friend parents and said bad words to them my friend parents said to my friend that it’s ok If you both live at different place from us although they have big enough house because they not want fight as its look so bad and they worried for what other think for their family. But problem Is here is not about live different from parents but problem is my friend wife not want to take care of my friend parents because they are old. But she take care of her own parents well and my friend also take care of his father in law and mother in law so what kind of this kindness that you like to take care of your own parents but not like to take care of your husband parents.
I want to tell her that when you become parents of children and when you become old and same thing your son’s wife will do then how you feel but she have not heart and try to keeping one son away from his mother. Sometimes I think how people are so mean why they have not even small feeling of pain for other. In old age our parents want only some food and love and they will not ask other demand what we did in our childhood.
છોરું કછોરૂ થાય પણ માતા કુમાતા ક્યારે ના થાય
Meaning of above this is lot and in it half line it says a lot and its meaning is ones children can Cheat their mother but mother never Cheat their children and its show greatest love of mother for children. There is lot of cases you guys seen that one children try to take all properties from their parents by cheating or can say you will get to see many times children cheat their parents but it’s not or rarely get to see parents cheat their children for anything.
Why Parents are great
There is one parents have 3 children and all are married and living together and one day due to one plane crash father died and then children live with their mother. Due to join family they doing fight and their wives not like to stay in one home and thus they told this to their mother that we want to live separate but due to they have not lot of money for 3 different house they have to sell their house but big question is if they separated after sell home where will mother live because she have only her home and if she give that to their children then where she go so they decide that they will keep mother for 4 month at each one house and will take care and they said this because they want own home so as we know mother can do anything for their children to see happy she did and it was a biggest mistake of her life.
They started to live separately and one by one turn come to keep mother but main thing here to see is none of them keeping her as their mother. They not give her proper food and treatment and also not talk in home, in one word they just disrespect the thing what she did for them but she never said this thing to anyone as she faces problem. It work good for sometimes but as it competed 4 month it’s time to go to other son home and as one son promised to take her mother to home but he not came so that first son called that if you not come I will come at your home and put her outside your home because my turn is over and now it’s your turn, if you can see they can’t keep even one or two day more to their own mother who give her everything and its make me sad that you are standing in that home which you get by your mother and you not want to keep that mother in your home how selfish they are.
Like this it work for year but they not want to keep more in home so they decide to send to old age house but she not want to go there because she want to live with their children but as no one of them ready to keep she have last option is old age home so they send her there and they send in very low class old age home because rent is less but while we visit her we never heard even once that my sons are bad and they send me here and they don’t like even though they torture and giving lot of pain to her and at last when she died she still said I want to see my children happy please good protect her but still they not value this love. This is true story of one of my relative and as we know karma will work and there is sure they must will suffer because if you give pain to your parents then you will never become happy in your life and they are started to facing it because they did wrong but as I said whatever they did still in last she said god keep my children happy and it show that their love is still same though children changed.
There is one great poem in our local language and I want to just share some lines of it.
ભૂલો ભલે બીજું બધું માબાપ ને ભૂલશો નહિ
અગણિત છે ઉપકાર એના એ કદી વિશરસો નહિ
Meaning of this line is that if you want to forget you can forget anything but never forget your parents because what they did for us is out of world so always keep in mind that.
કાઢી મુખે થી કોળિયા મોં માં દઈ મોટા કર્યા
એ અમૃતતણા દેનાર સામે ઝેર ઉગારશો નહિ
When we are hungry and there is not food in home then they give food to us and they not eat because for them we eat is first priority so do not come out poison for them from our mouth who always give you sweetness of love.
ભીને સુઈ પોતે અને સુકે સુવાડ્યા આપને
એ અમીમય આંખ ને ભૂલી ને ભીંજવશો નહિ
The best meaning of this poem in this line is that when there is only one place to sleep in home as there is other all places is wet so they will sleep in wet and make your sleep peaceful by put you in dry place.
In short I want to tell that if you live with your parents or not but please do not make them sad because they are real god and their love is pure and same forever. I seen many thing around here who misbehave or not take care of parents while they need most and it’s really sad thing.
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