Hello there! How are you today?
Today I have a small post because I have some homework to do...
In one of my last posts, I share with you some tips to "Start A Conversation With Anyone". So I was thinking maybe people have interesting knowing 2 or 3 big mistakes that can kill charisma.
So let's start!
1.Not Proactively Introducing Yourself
Many people feel very uncomfortable when they enter into a new group or go to the party. For that reason, they don't say anything and just often offer a small hand wave and stand there quietly like a table.
Try to do something different than that. You don't need to yell your name at everyone.
So the next time that you find yourself entering or being pulled into a small group, make sure to make eye contact and introduce yourself to some people with a handshake or just a strong hand wave.
If the people are involved in the conversation, you can say, "Hello, don't mean to interrupt but just wanted to introduce myself".
And please! If you are doing this with someone else, doesn't introduce just yourself like: My name is: blah blah blah and let the other person alone. A simple: Hey, this is my friend Peter. It's enough. I'm sure this will making everyone else more comfortable.
2.Not soliciting feedback
One of the biggest problem that we, human beings have.
When we love something we usually talk a lot about it. Sometimes we can be annoying. To avoid this you might want to try pausing mid-story to ask the other person a question just to see if they ask you how that story ended or to find out that they were tuning you out the whole time.
3.Answering questions with single works
Very common to happen this one.
If you find yourself consistently experiencing awkward silences,
chances are that you're putting yourself in those situations using short answers. For example:
Bad one
Person 1: Where are you from?
Person 2: Portugal.
Good one
Person 1: Where are you from?
Person 2: I'm from Portugal. You know, Fado, good food. Do you like Fado?
See? What can do the Person 1 in the "Bad One" scenario? Notting... The 2º person doesn't help very much...
On another hand, the "Good One" are a perfect example who want talk and have a lot of "Charisma".
Conclusion
If you go to a party and don't know anyone, don't be shy and say: Hello, People! Do it strongly! After the first introduction and some words, request feedback to know if what you are talking is interesting to the people. If you find that what you are saying is not interesting just make questions. Ask what they like, what they do and don't answer back using single works.
It's all for today! Hope you enjoy. Let me know if you know other tips and,
See you later!
