Just a thought:
The comfort zone of false goals and strategies can be so uncomfortable but you will still hold on to it, just because it’s something you know. Lingering in outlived relationships, friendships that no longer help you grow but put you down, staying in the same city, even when you feel drained and exhausted, fighting fights that no longer serve your dreams. Sometimes the hardest thing is to admit that you have chased a wrong idea, a dream that should’ve transformed a long time ago. We can be stubborn that way. And scared to admit that this was a mistake and I’d rather continue making it.
The truth is the biggest mistake you can ever make is holding on to the fear of making yet another mistake. Heck, you’ll make them anyway, sometimes it’s even out of your control, when you are stressed, tiered or beaten down. A lot of people regress into their child-like strategies and patterns of behavior when they are stressed or post-stress and that’s ok even if the payback is pricey. These strategies helped you to survive a long time ago and are registered in your mind as a way out. As a grown up you can rewrite this, make new experience by making new choices. Sometimes it means to act differently all together, sometimes it’s sticking around when you are scared of committing and you have been running away all your life, sometimes it’s fighting back when you have been oh so accepting and forgiving. Whichever it is you can do it. Trust your gut for starters, ask for support if you still don’t believe in yourself, ask for advice but take it with a grain of salt, everyone is different. We all have our past, dents in confidence, internal arguments. Find that peace with you own self, by making new experience and trusting in yourself over and over again. For now I’m saying good bye to my own comfort zone and starting quite a few things at the same time. If one or all of them will fail its ok- I need new experience and new outcomes. At the same time I am as confidant in my own beliefs as I have never been before. And I believe that anyone can do the same- make a new life after the storm.
Have an amazing day guys.
M
