The beauty about breakups is that it forces you to make a significant life choice.
The life choice comes down to: Leveling up or down.
This may seem like an oversimplification, but not really.
If you analyze your past breakups or are going thru one now, then look closer.
The traditional route is to level down.....at first. (I'll explain the 'at first' portion shortly).
At this stage, you are sad, lazy, go on a drinking spree and all of that.
To be honest, this is normal & often necessary. Not the 3 traits that I listed above, but some form form of leveling down is fine because it allows you to process what happened.
Your emotions are overwhelming your body & your mind is trying to adjust with the internal energy.
This is why you're finding it hard to sleep, eat & get excited about stuff.
After you have had time to process the energy, you have to ask yourself what the next step is.
Many people decide to level down even more! They do anything they can to hide the pain.
But a rare group of people decide that now is the time to level up.
They will go to the gym, pick up a hobby & create something. They aren't burying the pain, rather they are leveraging it to produce.
When you can use that internal energy, you have your fuel for your level up journey.
I remember Eminem once mentioned that he was creating some of his best works when he was going thru rock bottom. It's because he was feeling a lot of emotions that were bringing out a different side to him.
Humans have a logical side & an emotional side. The logical side allows us to operate well within the realms of reality. But the emotional side allows out to shatter that reality. It makes us a lot more unpredictable, chaotic & unstructured.
'Whoa bro, that sounds like a bad thing!'
Well, it can be.
That's if you let your emotions destruct you.
But if you decide to produce with the emotions, then the 'unpredictable, chaotic & unstructured' traits become your creative fuel.
Art = Structured Chaos.
It all begins with being emotionally intelligent. You need to find healthy ways for your mind & heart to work together.
-If you lead with your brain too much, you become overly logical & neglect your intuition.
-If you lead with your heart too much, you become overly whimsical & neglect your rationale.
Life is a game of finding a balance.
If you are someone going thru a dark time & want to find a way to engineer yourself out of it, I recommend signing up for an emotional intelligence session.
This is one of the most significant subjects to invest in when you've hit a rock bottom moment. But more importantly having a 3rd perspective opinions will prevent you from making any sort of risky decisions.
Whether it's a breakup, getting over a car accident, moving on from getting fired, understand that your emotions can still help you.
It all comes down to choosing the perception you decide for that energy.
Your body's internal energy can be your fuel or anchor.
The choice is yours.
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