There are moments in our lives where there is a relationship that does not fully meet our hopes. There is a particular type of relationship that still eludes us with a loved one or a friendship that has experienced a fracture.
What I have to offer is the care of listening and the interest and the ability to travel with a person. I am always so amazed at what the Holy Spirit can do when I feel hopeless and useless in my power. In an attempt not to solve the problem of the person, the person is administered by the Holy Spirit who acts through me.
I remember a time when a certain relationship was not only tense but the relationship, as it had been, was over. I was driven by pain. Shot in the place of the loss I was completely ill-equipped to handle.
When people say that God does not give you more than you can handle, part of me wants to laugh, but even a part of me gets angry.
Life gives us more than we can deal with.
God allows this to lead us to an understanding of oneself in our suffering.
Therefore, we need God, because sometimes life cannot answer our questions, and only God can help at this time.
... but never in a way that we had originally planned...
The situation in the previous relationship taught me a lot because there was no hope at certain levels. I had to get used to the fact that things had changed forever. There was no way to reconcile the relationship with the way it was. I was forced to fix it. But I also found a way to reconcile myself with that person in a way that only God could obtain. But there was a blessing disguised, a reparation of God if desired, by the fact that things had hopelessly changed.
God brings us closer to him, and as reparation, we receive a gift that cannot offer anything in this world.
However, this may seem like a short change for those who have not yet experienced such compensation. For some reason, you can never experience what I and many others call the facts of faith. But only when we do pressure in our pain, will we benefit in a way that is entire of God.
Again, I can feel quite useless, because it is totally inappropriate to comfort you as I wish. Such a consolation that I speak, I can give to the family, if not others and I am inclined to a possible abuse of the power that God gives me the remedy. And yet it is God's power to be close to such consolation, for God makes me come out of my way, that his mind may work in this situation of my society and contain the person.
But the sadness of being in a kind of relationship that does not lead to hope that we feel very overwhelming. But the power of God does not seem to work until we get to this place to feel overwhelmed.
Feeling overwhelmed is like getting to the first base in the cult economy for pain.
And there is something very valuable in a person-to-person relationship that is both safe and intimate.
Such a therapeutic relationship has the effect of healing by the power of God, because and only because it is platonic. Such a relationship can not and cannot save a person from immediate pain, but somehow gives them the courage to continue on the path of hope to the solution.
And I argue that the effectiveness of the counseling relationship is precisely for this reason: we do not interrupt the flow of God's healing spirit, which requires a man to do his work, even if they are led by the faith of no one of us to be. privilege to go with them.