"Mistakes should be corrected, not to be tolerated."
It's easy to tell but it's hard to do. The hardest part of having friends is confronting. We don't want them to feel terrible. That's why as a friend we are avoiding to say hurtful words or to tell them about the mistakes they just did. The thinking of protecting our friends is not that bad. Although in telling the truth they were wrong on that matter. We are not protecting them but letting them be in trouble. Telling someone by their mistakes is not wrong, just say it nicely. If they are your friends they would understand for sure.
Let's say for example your friend said harsh words to another friend. Your other friend thought that it was nothing to be mad at. That friend of yours thought they knew what kind of attitude he has. They should just understand that this friend of your jokes like that. Remember that patience will not always be there. Sometimes it doesn't exist when they thought that's a bit too much. It's not understandable anymore because it's repeatedly done. It's better to speak up especially when that friend of yours is a close friend to you. Don't just stay silent and tolerate the situation.
Sorry, could be acceptable if not being said all the time. The word sorry has nothing to do of the pain that already there. It's being used because that someone who will receive will think it's not intentional. It's true but once it will be said again and again. It became intentional anymore and that person who will ask sorry don't have the right anymore for that word. It's clear that this person wasn't thinking how the other person will be felt by keeping on telling awful words. If that person was sorry for what he just said it should not be done all the time.
All of us can do mistakes but please don't use this line. "Sorry, I'm just human." This line is not effective anymore. It's not new for every person because it became senseless anymore. But let's not wait to make someone keep on saying sorry. Instead, we should tell them personally and privately. There are those people who are not aware of what they just did because it became part of their daily activities. Example of it is joking someone. Jokes could be fun for others to listen. But for those being hit by that jokes it will be annoying. It's not fun anymore when someone will think he/she is being mocked. Even we could tell how does it feel when the group of friends unite to mock us. We will smile for sure but that's just a fake for sure. In the benefits of friendship which is very selfish.
Tell them, "Hey, that's being too much. Hey, minimise your words because it's hurting someone. Hey, that's being rude, etc." There are too many words to tell a person about their mistakes. It's just a matter of telling someone. If we care for that friend and care for that another friend. We should not join the bullying. It's not bullying maybe but when someone being mocked and being groped with jokes. We consider it bullying. We are hurting someone so it's not fun anymore.
If we're a real friend we should not tolerate wrongdoings. If he/she's not aware we could tell from the expression. They are aware or not, we should not tolerate them. They should be corrected or time will come they can meet someone who can not tolerate their jokes. They might end up fighting each other because that friend of your will act rude in their eyes. As a friend, we should care for them and correcting them is just one of the ways how we care for someone. We don't want a friend to be in harm or to be in trouble. Let's tell them now or it will be too late. I know it's not easy but if we want to find words to tell, there is. But make sure you don't act like you're mad or feeling inferior to them. Tell them nicely and explain to them as a friendly attitude. No friend will get mad when they will understand that we're doing it because they are our friends. Do it now or we can't do it anymore.
thank you for reading
d' dreamboy,
@mrnightmare89