My family
Family relationship can be very complicated. Children can be very stubborn and difficult. A parent may decide to spend most of their time away from home to avoid confrontation. Fathers will prefer drinking sprees with friends into the wee hours that they rarely meet their family members. Women too will spend time in wonen groups or societies rather than be home.
The cat-rat game has been perfected in away resembling to the sun-moon relationship where they meet occasionally during eclipses. Such occasions when they meet, are so rare that there is complete uneasness.
Fathers in the African setting normally take the growling type of stance. When they arrive in the home, everybody knows the man of the house has arrived. It is as if a lion has entered an area infested by antelopes. They all scatter in all directions. It is a case of survival for the fittest. If you were unlucky to be caught, then you were beaten to pulp. It is the butt that suffered most. Mothers were not spared of the wrath. Yhe drunk man was so fierce that even neighbors feared the worst.
My family
Traditional mothers also did not have the power to discipline their children. They often threatened to report sturbbon children to their fathers. The children therefore never feared nor respected their mothers.
My family however is brought up in a christian setting. We changed completely the threatening and quarreling type of discipline. Dialogue was embraced in my family. We talked over issues like pals. Both parents were always available in the home.
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We developed such an approach because we wanted to develope children who valued themselves as individuals. They were to grow with self disciplined rather than forced discipline. Our children were free to make decisions in the home. Often they told us their problems before going to any other person. We are buddies. Our love lives forever. They are very disciplined God-fearing individuals.
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