There is no appropriate place, situation, or time to express romantic interest In a woman. Every one is off limits to some women who will complain about you hitting on them there. The only exception is if she has a profile on a dating website. Then it's okay to be one of the 200 people who wrote her that day, hoping she will read your message and respond.
What has me thinking about this today is that a woman shared a delivery guy sex fantasy with me; or rather, there was a story about such a thing actually happening and she lamented that it never happened to her. That's when I told her what I said above.
It was on my mind because, just today, there is one thread where a friend of mine is being called out on her bullshit. I love it. She's complaining because she scratched her butt and a man was turned on by it. She's made about half a dozen of these posts, complaining about men being attracted to her, as she dresses as much to attract men as possible and men are calling her out on the thread. One called her an attention whore who whines when she gets attention. Nobody is white knighting. I love it. It's like a tipping point happened after a certain number of times and everyone is being honest for once.
This is a theme that has come up many times in my life as countless women complain about being hit on in various scenarios. Examples of times/places/situations when approaching a woman are off limits include and are not limited to:
- At the gym
- At work
- On the dance floor (I just came here to dance)
- On the street
- If she's your waitress
- On Facebook
- Basically any place in public
It's also rude to try to get the attention of a woman, in public. You cannot talk to any woman who has not first looked at you and given you non-verbal permission to talk with her. That is so profound, I want to say it again:You cannot talk to any woman who has not first looked at you and given you non-verbal permission to talk with her. The girl who said that, to me, unfriended and blocked me on Facebook, after discussion about the topic. Good Riddance. There is no, "excuse me miss" or "hello there," to get her attention. If she's not looking at you and smiling, don't talk to her. It's simply inappropriate. I pointed this out that it is much like one way royalty assert dominance over their subjects. It's a subjugation technique.
This conversation came out of the infamous New York Walking girl video. Remember the one where she got hit on, men greeted her with hellos, etc. and she just walked as if everyone around her didn't exist? There were a few men who tried a little too hard there but most were quite courteous. If anyone was rude, it was her. Granted, she doesn't owe strangers her time; but it would sure be nicer if she politely said so. I don't want to live in a world where women acted the way she did on the video. At the end of the video, she counted up, what seems to be every time a man said anything to her, as verbal street harassment. I would assume, she posted all of the worst ones in the video.
It's really sad for all the women out there who would enjoy attention they aren't getting and the men who feel a bit on egg shells, talking to them. I guess, the best advice for them would be to say fuck off to the women who are offended by that. You have no right to not be offended. That's advice I really should take myself. I Probably should have asked the clerk at the hardware store out. If she liked it, good. If she's offended by the idea that a man would dare approach her; fuck her anyway. She's not the kind of person I need in my life.
There is another thing to consider. Any of these women complaining about being hit on in these times, situations, scenarios and saying they are inappropriate situations to pick up women in--would completely forget about their rules, if they wanted the particular guy hitting on them.