Hello beautiful people of the Steemian family. It's your girl Zizy and guess what? It is Saturday again and your favourite show, "Saturday night with Zizy" is here again with mouth watering contents to make your night an enjoyable one. Last week's show was amazing with beautiful comments and long Epistles that can make a post on steemit laughs. I wish I can curate all the comments because they are well thought out and the advices given are just full of wisdom. It breaks my heart that I can't give them the much deserved upvotes but I'm a believer that soon something great will happen.
Last week on "Saturday night with Zizy", we talked about the age old argument, "men or women, who enjoys sex the most"? If you missed it not to worry, just click here to read away and catch up on all the juicy details. Now let's get today's show started. Rubs hands together I am so excited.
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RELATIONSHIP TALK WITH ZIZY
During the course of the week I stumbled on a beautiful post on low self esteem. Low self esteem affects people more than you think. People with low self esteem are troubled so much about what people think about them. They lack confidence and are more worried about pleasing others and so are ready to apologize even for being themselves. I am not saying that saying "I am sorry" is bad, no. All I am saying is do not apologize for being you, for making mistakes, for pursing your dreams. This is your life and you only get to live it once. Why apologize for decisions you made? Let's take a look at some things we should never apologize for and most often than not we find ourselves doing so.
THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR
Loving someone: To love or not to love is a choice. It is not your fault when the love is not returned. This does not mean you are unlovable of unworthy of love. You chose to be vulnerable and self sacrificing, they chose to be myopic and miss out on the wonderful experience they could have had having you.
Saying No: Most times we find it difficult to say no to demands, questions or comments because we do not want to appear rude, mean or anti-social and we want people to like us. Who says they will like you less when you say NO? You do not have to say yes to ANYTHING if you feel the right response is NO.
Following your Dreams: Do not be embarrassed by your failures. Learn from them and start again. Follow your dreams and pursue it until you achieve it. It doesn't matter if people see any sense in it or not. Do not apologize for following your dreams instead prove to people that you made the right call.
Taking "me" time: Find time for yourself. Find your happiness. Take care of yourself. Spoil yourself. Do things that make you happy. Stop pleasing others thinking you are irreplaceable and displeasing yourself. Stop overworking yourself. If you break down, another is by the doorstep waiting to take your place.
Your Priorities: Whatever is important to you should be taken care of. The people who matter will respect your choice. You are in charge of your success and well-being. Many people in your life think they know what is best for you. Dont let the opinions of others make you feel guilty or confused.
Ending a toxic relationship: The hardest part of walking away from someone is the part where you realize that no matter how slow you walk, they will never run after you. Being single is smarter than being in a wrong relationship.
Your imperfections: There is only one of you in the world. Your individuality and little quirks are what makes you, you. You should be proud of you. Everyone has imperfections. Embrace and never apologize for being yourself. Be comfortable in your perfect imperfection, that is the true essence of beauty.
Speaking the truth: Never apologize for being honest. No hiding the truth because sooner or later it will come out. Be pure and real and tell the truth off right the bat. Truth makes your relationship stronger.
If you are rejected, accept it. If you feel unloved, let go. If they choose someone or something over you, move on. Remember that in every no, is a yes to someone or something better.
DATING TIPS
FUN CORNER (Just for Laughs)
Ladies, get married to a guy who is older than you so by the time you are loosing your beauty, he will be loosing his eyesight. If you know, you know
DEAR ZIZY
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How do I dump a cheating boy friend that lacks empathy and remorse? I have been in a relationship of 3 years with a guy who abuses me physically and emotionally, although we have not had any reason to fight for the past 2years but recently found out he is cheating on me, which he denied when I confronted him and even threatened to beat me up if I don't shut up, since then I have been very upset. I really want everything to end but I don't know how to go about it because he is somehow violent and the house he is staying belongs to me which is the main reason why I need to be careful. Please post and hide my identity. Good job you are doing @zizymena.
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Dear Zizy please help me. I have a girlfriend. She is good although she has her bad sides but then who doesn't? Sometimes ago she introduced me to her younger sister and even left us together. We got talking and I loved her free spirit and how she talks. She talks so nice better than my girlfriend and that was how it started. We started calling each other often even went as far as pet names and even sexting on phone. It felt so good but lately I'm feeling guilty about the whole thing. I love the younger sister and she loves me too. Now I don't know what to do. Should I break up with my girlfriend and date the younger one?
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Dear Zizy, So there is this girl that I loved, She did a lot for me and my family (in all honesty) and as a result, my parents like her. We have gone so far that both of our parents are now in sync. But over time, she started putting up some attitudes and probably maybe because she was too confident that insurance cover her, she misbehaves a lot. So I got fed up and sent her a message that we should break up which she didnt reply (even though she saw it). I took it as a yes from her end. So I moved on with my life and eventually found someone who I really love. I've envisioned a lot of my future around her. Well, maybe the supposed-ex took my message as a joke and now its looking real, she told my mum about it, mum informed dad and now like MFM, I mean serious fire. My parents say over their dead body will they accept the new girl and I have promised her I will never leave her. Please what should I do?
The stories recieved this week are so much and we cannot treat all here on Saturday night with Zizy but not to worry as there is still next week and many more weeks to come on this show.
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I hate to leave you but leave you I must. Until next time when I come your way again, same time, same blog, more hosts, I remain
Yours truly
@zizymena.
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