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Dear friends steemians all ,, in my post this time I will discuss about the dangers of dating before marriage.
** Islam forbids courtship not without cause. That dating, apart from approaching adultery which is a great sin, can also cause various dangers that all will not only harm yourself but also others.
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** 1. Approaching adultery **
This is a definite danger caused by courtship. Men are required to keep their gaze from women, and women must be aware of their existence in front of men who are not mahramnya. Hadith of Abdullah bin Buraidah, from his father, said: "The Messenger of Allah (saw) said to Ali: Hai Ali, do not follow the first view with a second view. Because the first sight is for you (forgiven) and the second sight is not for you (unforgivable). "(H. R. Abu Dawud). In fact, if anyone claiming dating in a rarely far or better known as LDR (long distance relationship) is just the same thing. Zina does not mean to meet and then have sex without any marriage bond. Even when the man sends a short message to the woman, it also approaches adultery. In fact, it could be included in the adultery of heart and mind. Thinking how happy it is to send the message while imagining each other's faces, recast their sin.
** 2. Eliminate concentration **
Some say it can be an encouragement to study or work? It is wrong to think so. In fact, the courtship only drains the brain and interrupts concentration. The focus of learning is gone and the work gets neglected. The dating is not easy, because it involves two heads, even three, four, and so on, with top priority being "how-how-to-make-boyfriend." As a result, various ways are done just to please each other. Rela left the job and wasted time to learn just to accompany the boyfriend to walk. If one day happens that the name of the dispute, it will trigger the stress that causes the spirit of learning to be lost. Even just thinking about the boyfriend alone has a lot of time consuming and make it wasted in vain. Though, not aware that what they are doing is breaking the command of Allah SWT and only accumulate sin alone.
** 3. The cause of many losses **
One part of the culture of courtship is the effort to give happiness to couples but without realizing it is just a waste. Rela spends time, money and hope just for the sake of someone who is not necessarily his mate. In fact, it is better if time is used to worship and more closer to Allah SWT. Then, the money used to go to a movie movie, eat in a fancy restaurant, buy it for a girlfriend, give it to those who need it more. Alms even give blessings to our treasures, while boyfriend? -Believe me, the smiles of those who receive our help are far more beautiful than your girlfriend's smile. Not to mention if all expenses incurred not infrequently not from own income but from parents, often occurs in adolescents, increased the burden of parents. Even if the income from his own income, it is not true the relationship because if indeed a man is serious, he will not come to the house just to take the road women, but serious men will come to the house bringing parents / guardians and apply for a woman she loves in front of her parents.
** 4. Disrupt the life of society **
People who dating often disturb the community and cause various slander, especially those who often two-duaan in a quiet place for example in kost kostan. Often we hear of rogue boarding and find many unauthorized couples caught. In social life, this is totally destructive of morals and will be a very bad example for the children who see it.
- ** Hopefully it can be useful for my friends all steemians, may Allah bless us all ,, and give us hints ,,, amiiiin .. **
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