Actually, differences of opinion are things that we used to meet in our daily lives, both in personal life, social life, or the world of business and the world of work.
Now, how do we respond to these differences of opinion? Responding to these differences becomes important in improving our social life and social intelligence as a human.
Regarding the attitude and the way we respond to these differences, then, in this case, I try to give tips or ways to address the differences I have ever done. First, I always react to that difference wisely, in the sense that I respect the opinions of others who are different from me. Second, I don't want to conflict just because of different opinions and views.
Here are ways to deal with differences of opinion and how we can change people's thinking without causing resentment and conflict. Based on my experience, the following ways are very effective change people's thinking without causing resentment and conflict.
1) Start by giving sincere praise and awards
When you disagree with other people and you want to change the other person's position without causing resentment, then the first thing you have to do is praise him sincerely. Give sincere praise but don't overdo it. Then you slowly convey your true intentions and goals. In this way, your real intention will be conveyed in a good and wise way.
However, if you immediately say, O sir, your opinion is wrong, I do not accept, you refuse and reject it in ways that are not wise. Then this will allow conflict.
So in terms of responding to the most important difference is how we change that thinking must be a wise way such as giving praise and appreciation for their thoughts and opinions.
For example: if you are a leader (boss) of a company, you want to change the thinking of your subordinates, then you must say:
"Your job is good, but you need to improve some of these parts ..."
That is, you as superiors are not arbitrary who blame the work of your subordinates. Every job that is not good is needed to be repaired, but use wise methods and wise language as well. Attitudes and communication of superiors and subordinates must be well established.
Therefore, starts with giving praise and appreciation if you want to change the thinking of others who are different from you.
2) Don't show other people's mistakes directly
Blaming others directly has the potential to cause hatred. When you get someone else's mistakes, then don't show someone else's mistakes directly, but you must be able to show the other person's mistakes indirectly. Because showing his mistakes indirectly is an effective way to blame his mistakes without causing hatred and conflict.
Example: you are a secretary. When your boss makes a speech, you must listen to the speech from the boss. In your judgment, your boss's speech is not feasible, but don't say that his speech is actually bad. It would be better if you say:
"Sir, your speech sounds unusual, I prefer if you speak in the usual way, sir."
By a way and communication like that, your boss will correct his speech without feeling offended in the slightest.
3) Speak and show your own mistakes first, before you show the mistakes of others
Maybe all this time we are more busy looking for and showing the mistakes of others. Ideally, before you talk about someone else's mistakes, you should look at yourself and talk about your mistakes.
Showing and talking about your own mistakes is an effective way to change people's minds without causing discomfort, so talk about your own mistakes before you talk about other people's mistakes.
For example, if you are a boss when you have to show the fault of your subordinates then say:
"You today has made a mistake, but your mistake was no greater than the mistakes I made when I was in your position. But it would be better if you did it like this ..."
4) Change the command into the proposal
You must know that no one likes command by others, especially in high notes and rough. Tones and ways of communication are very important in giving orders to someone.
Rather than you say:
"Do this, do it !!!"
Better you say:
"Do you think it can be done this way?" Or "How about this?" Or "How to use that method"
5) Take care of other people's self-esteem
The most important thing is to maintain the dignity of others and their honor, especially in public. Don't blame, insult, or even rebuke. There is no benefit whatsoever that you get from this unless you are only concerned with your own ego. So do not do something that can offend other people's feelings.
