On the whole people have many different facets they present to others on an everyday basis. It is normal to have a work persona, a good neighbour persona, a socially responsible citizen persona and an affable easy going friend to everyone. Who we are deep down we keep to ourselves in most situations? The levels of friendship and sociability depends on how reserved we are on trust and closeness with friends, work colleagues or family members. Holding back our beliefs, attitudes and humour etc is most normal until we get to know another individual really well.
Misjudgment is a hard lesson, trusting the wrong people are big lessons and unfortunatley the repercussions with being laughed at, being the butt of bullying and gossip at definitely character building. They are the hard lessons that take place as early as childhood and teenage years at school, lessons that are never forgotten. We learn very quickly to keep our real selves, also known as our true selves inside until we feel safe and comfortable.
Getting to really know someone takes time and it is only then that individuals feel that they are able to show their passion, beliefs, attitudes, humour etc. Self-preservation is most important. All of which are very good reasons to be cautious with what one says and behaves. So presenting different faces to others makes sense. We can be polite and engage in light social chatting to individuals we just meet at parties, in supermarket cues and on train or bus rides.
But, isn't it so nice when we can be our true self in a relaxed accepting place, where we can say what we want to our loved ones and trusting friends?
Cheers and Blessings
An apt photo for this post that I found on facebook. We all need to be circumspect at times
