Imagine an imaginary line beyond which the group collapses. Well, there's such a line!
Sometimes, when there is no understanding and skill on the subject, it will be difficult for you to see it, but for those who understand its meaning and how it works, it is real and completely visible.
Actually, making a group for a group is its consensuses.
There can be agreements in three main categories:
The first is the main goal of the group - what the group is for and what it is trying to achieve.
The second is the agreement on how to achieve the goal - here there are the laws and policies of the group as to what is permitted and what is forbidden to do in order to achieve the goal.
The third is the agreement on how to change agreements in a group - literally, if I want to change the group's goal and / or how I want to achieve the goal, there is an agreed way to do so in the group.
In fact, a member of the group has two main rights: one is to be a member of the group and to act fully according to the agreed agreements, and the second is to leave the group.
The main enemies of each group member regarding his membership in the group are his personal wishes that contradict the group's agreements.
There is a hierarchy of ego abolition for the group and the greater the gap between these desires and the desires of the group, the more the group will be reduced because of the inability of people to cancel themselves against the needs of the group.
Hence, a group that has a congruence between its goals and the natural tendencies of its members will be a very popular and stable group.
And a demanding group with rigid goals demanding great self-sacrifice would be rare and small.
Either way, the line where the group collapses, is found immediately after agreeing to "get about". A person continues to be a member of the group, but fulfills its laws and agreements in part.
Once this happens, there is no more group. It will continue to exist ostensibly while in fact it is already on the way down and will disappear.
Look at your groups, are you real friends or have you crossed the line? Worth a second look ...