Maturity is not a proper term for adults. Age does not mean maturity. Age does not mean childishness. Age may be the basic condition of a person's maturity, but it is not a direct determinant. When a person gradually has the ability to think and form his or her own three views, he or she is no longer restricted by age, making him or her a mature person.
Many adults are young, but their minds are still childish. Many young people are young, but very mature. What contributed to the totally different results? What does maturity have to do with stability? Does mature thinking lead to corresponding steady behavior?
Maturity and stability are two different things. They are not at one level. A mature person is not necessarily stable. A steady person, relatively mature. The most important signs of maturity include not only:
Three views of correctness and completeness;
Wide vision and rich experience.
The most important features of stability include not only:
Principles and Bottom Line of High EQ;
Stable mood and quiet soul.
The most important sign of maturity
Three Views of Correctness and Completeness
When everyone has his own thoughts, they begin to form three views, the so-called values, outlook on life and world outlook. From the historical background, every ten years seems to be a watershed, such as the 1970s, 1980s, 1990s, and now the younger generation of people. Every generation has its own growth environment and three characteristics of formation.
No matter how the times change, the correct three views are an important factor for a person to grow up healthily. This is why it is important to establish the correct three views first, and then the complete three views. With the rapid development of the times, no one can ensure that the three concepts formed in a specific period are complete and need to be updated and perfected with changes.
But the three preconditions must be correct, otherwise the farther away, the more deviated.
The correct and complete three views can not be separated from the system of Universal Value, which has nothing to do with nationality. Universal values include not only democracy, freedom, rule of law, human rights and so on. Under this premise, there is a need for peaceful coexistence among people of different ages, sexes, ethnic groups, religions and cultures.
Complete three views are doomed to learn to tolerate each other, not necessarily agree with each other, but need to understand each other.
If you can't understand each other's situation, it is immature to criticize or judge each other with your limited knowledge, or to define others with your own three narrow-minded views. At the same time, you also need unconditional acceptance of other people's criticism or judgment, and other people's definition of you, and not to fight back, which is the performance of maturity.
Wide vision and rich experience
No one is born with a broad horizon. Only when people are knowledgeable can they break through their original values. Otherwise, like a frog at the bottom of a well, who is watching that day, thinks that it is the whole world. Over time, your thoughts and actions will become more and more narrow. There is less and less talk between you and others. Even if they were good friends. As a famous Internet saying goes: Time is not the only thing that separates us, but values that are gradually fading away.
Wide knowledge and rich experience have direct or indirect relationship. Generally speaking, knowledgeable people often have rich experience, which can be reflected in different fields, whether it is learning, workplace, entrepreneurship, travel and so on. Rich experience, usually on the basis of a wide range of knowledge, gradually settled down. Including the loss that has been suffered, and the tears that have passed. The combination of the two will lead to a calm mind.
In life, especially in the workplace, while focusing on their own line of work, they try to cultivate cross-border learning ability. Consult more elites or leaders in different fields. I believe that after in-depth contacts and dialogues with these characters, there will be a significant result: listen to the words of the emperor, and read more than ten years. This is a way to broaden our horizons. When the horizon is opened, the heart can not help but enrich.
In addition, we should have the curiosity of the world, and the passion and ability of self-exploration. Which one will last longer and more profoundly, a point of view heard by others and a point of view perceived by oneself? You can volunteer in different countries, or you can experience different travel plans. All of these can help you increase your knowledge and enrich your experience. Some require time costs, while others require an economic base. Anyway, if you want to grow up, you have to try one of them.
The most important characteristic of stability
Steady is not the product of whim, only when mature, people will slowly start to be steady. What kind of people are relatively stable? People who have experienced setbacks, considered carefully, took good care of themselves and can act against the tide generally have a strong sense of stability. The more stable people are, the more responsible they are. The most important features of stability include not only:
Principles and Bottom Line of High EQ;
Stable mood and quiet soul.
Stable mood and quiet soul
If you want emotional stability, you must have a quiet soul. Without a quiet soul, it is impossible to maintain emotional stability. Everyone's mood is affected by many factors. An example of eating might be easy to understand. Some boys do not have meat to eat, feel powerless, emotional instability. Some girls do not have sweets to eat, feel what the shortcomings, emotions will change.
In addition to eating, there are also external language can affect people's emotions. A word of censure, and a phrase of praise, produce completely different results. For example, a stranger on the street smiles at you and says, "Your bag is nice, I love it." I believe you must be in a good mood and in a good state because your taste is recognized.
No matter what you look like, the most important thing is that you learn to know yourself correctly. This involves the soul level. Your soul is what you believe in. The soul determines the mood, and the mood determines the behavior. The impetuous soul shows impetuous heart and behavior. A quiet soul can bring a calm mind.
A quiet soul comes from a firm belief. Because He can make people more wise to see the world, tolerant attitude to complex interpersonal relationships, incomparably firm beliefs to run the road of life, calm and calm to face the darkness of human nature and the tragedy of the world.
Belief is the highest command post of thought, which directly determines the bottom line of the three outlooks and principles of life. The higher the belief index, the higher the security and happiness index. They know that their true values, identity and security never come from others, but from faith itself.
Stable mood does not mean dull. Touch the bottom line of the soul, and then quiet people will have emotions. In a world of cruel reality, maturity and stability are equivalent to two wings. Without any one, they can not fly very high or far. Older generations should set a solid example and younger adolescents should accelerate their maturity.
If a person is not impetuous in heart, his appearance will naturally be calm. Those who pretend to be deep in appearance are those who are too impetuous in heart. Maturity is the external expression of personality, and stability is the true portrayal of self. If you don't have the ability to clean up the mess, don't indulge in fickle moods.
You need maturity, but more stability.