What if I stop fooling around and pull this shot? Would that make me cheap? Gosh... Why I'm I even thinking of asking a guy to get in bed with me? This is so myopic of me. I mean, who does that?.
Do those thoughts sound familiar to you? Maybe. Maybe not.
What do you think of a lady who asks a guy out?
Most people think her cheap. They shudder in shame if such an attitude is found among their friends. Should it be so? There are bold ladies, who will go out of their way to ask a guy they like out. They sometimes get rejected, sometimes they don't. At times, the guy in the picture is just too shy to open up his feelings. The woman takes the initiative in such scenarios.
What would I do?
I wouldn't ask a guy out...no. I would only give him green light. Set him up in a way that gives away my intention without saying it out loud. If he takes the hint and asks we go ahead. If he doesn't, I'll leave it alone.
No, I lied. Sincerely, I don't know what I would have done in this scenario. I haven't gotten to this point.
Wait, I had a crush on someone once and dated years later
How did I pull it off?
I waited. I know how to do this very well. What? Wait. I don't know how I pull this off but every time I want something and it's not forthcoming I wait. I did it with my first crush.
He had just recently joined our church, and every girl was on his matter. Initially, I was offended by the fact that they were falling head over heels for him. As I began to hate this, I didn't realize when I started crushing too.
My girlfriend was closer to him and usually brought gist and information concerning him. I knew him secretly because my friend was feeding me. He had no idea.
He was older. He finished high school first, and tried the Joint Admission Examination in my country, and couldn't get it. Rumor had it that I was good with my sciences. This was how he came to me and asked that I tutor him in the three science courses he needed to prepare for in his exam.
Finally, a chance to get what I wanted
What the heck? I waited for three years to have you notice me and fickle fate brought you to me? Wow...that came as a surprise.
I didn't hesitate to say yes. We started classes. As a result of taking his private lessons, we discussed lots of things. He shared a lot of personal information. More information you might say for me. I used every single piece of information received to my advantage.
We proceeded from tutor-student relationship to close friends. I indulged him in deep conversations. We called each other frequently. SMS frequently. To reduce SMS bills, I had to open my Facebook account. He was the reason. I wanted to talk to him more. Draw his attention from the rest of the ladies who wanted him to me.
He started falling. Time and time again he brought up the topic of love and feelings, I'll wave him off. I pretended I didn't want to talk about it. I acted as though I was offended by such discussions....lol...
He had this laundry job then, he was usually tired. He requested massages a lot of times, and I'll turn him down. He found moments to steal kisses and touch me. I was enjoying the attention. At the same time, I was doing a great job hiding it.
I didn't want to date him because my friend met him first. I have this loyalty issue. If my friend meets a guy first, I don't want to date him even though the tables turn.
I said yes to him
I did date him, why? One Sunday afternoon, we were having a conversation with my girlfriend, and she brought him up. She said she has noticed how much he likes me, and how close we have become. She told me, with smiles, that I should say yes to him.
What is she saying? I thought in my head. I have never had any discussion about this guy unless it's the lessons I was taking him on. Did he ask her for help to convince me to accept him? Who cares? All I cared about at that moment was that my biggest obstacle to getting my crush to be mine just sold itself out without realizing it.
I didn't say anything to her. All I remember is that I ended up dating this guy. He passed his exams. We were together for three years and then went separate ways.
Why I'm I telling you about a childhood crush, anyway?
This is to assure you that most times as Ladies, you do not need to sell your face and ask a guy out. You can always bid your time, and once an opportunity shows up, you strike. You shouldn't waste opportunities when you have them. Be on their good page, relate with them as friends without giving your intentions away. Enter their spirit, love the things they love, work around their moods. Then watch the guy you love bend to your will without knowing.