Lately, I have realized how outspoken I am, I say my mind freely whenever I communicate, I think deeply about what I want to say and then I communicate it the best way I can. And I have seen that this is not common, while I was writing this, I came across a lot of examples, serious ones, bad ones and even funny ones.
People find it difficult to communicate properly, or at least that is how it appears to me. I started considering a lot things like why that is the case, I know that it is not necessarily about smarts or intelligence, but why is talking really hard for people, talking well I mean. One of the most common example is one in a classroom setting and a student needs to leave the class, but when he or she is asked “where to?” by the teacher or something along those lines, they freeze up and can’t say anything tangible. They start muttering and in the end are prevented from going out. Not because they didn’t have a solid reason, but because they didn’t communicate well.
Another example that baffles me is one where a child cannot freely ask their parents about whatever is in their mind. A lot of my friends are victims of this particular example . I have even seen some of them shy away completely from asking their parents about anything even if it is not a bad request. When they are forced by circumstance to talk to them, they stutter throughout and can’t pass the message in their head clearly which as I have seen most times yield the opposite of the intended result.
Communication is a powerful tool at our disposal and like all tools, we should all learn to use it well, very well. I am sure we have seen a few movies where a character playing a role of a person with so much eloquence, they can practically get away with anything, beat the opposition in any argument, convince someone of something heroic or stupid, talk someone into theft or murder, etc. Their skill is realistic, take therapy for instance, it is at it's base healing by talking. Words have power if you convey them well enough.
Now I also know that a lot of factors like environment, family background, personality trait, trauma and past experiences of receiving “No” can and has prevented people from communicating better but this is being written to convince you that the art of talking can elevate you, empower you, and give you an advantage with people.
People love and at the same time are wary of a smooth talker because of the influence they can have with people. Get over your fears, breathe in and out, arrange your words and thoughts in order even if you have to talk slowly, come out with what you have to say, most people’s response may not matter, learn more and improve. As social beings, communications is more than words, it transcends the physical, it gets astral, emotional and psychological, learn to talk well today.
I ask you once again ,”How do you talk?”
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