People have different perceptions about what "the best thing" about a project, event, relationship or something else might be.
For me, the best part is typically "having DONE it."
I was a distance and cross-country runner in high school, college and beyond... and I ran a lot of weekend 10K and half-marathon races. The slightly silly thing about it — at least to many people's minds — was that I didn't really like running all that much, but I loved having run.
So it has been, with most things I have undertaken in life. I get my "high" not from the actual doing but from being able to sit down afterwards and having done things.
I have talked about the pain in the rear it has been to raise enough money for our annual property tax payment, which finally got paid a few days back.
And, for the last couple of days, I have been feeling that great sense of relief that comes with having something out of the way.
I realize there's a lot of conventional wisdom out there to the effect of "it's not the destination that matters, it's the journey."
Maybe I'm a little left-of-center in regards to feeling like the end bit really matters.
I also realized the truth of that when someone was asking me about my writing, last week.
Don't get me wrong, I love the writing gig. But the "good feels" come from having completed an article; a blog post... not so much from the actual writing — the activity, itself — of it.
Why is this even noteworthy enough to write about? Well, part of me suddenly recognized that perhaps one of the ways I ended getting labeled by many as "lazy" has to do with the fact that I don't necessarily enjoy doing most things... But I do them — and often gladly — so I can have the good feeling of having DONE them, afterwards.
Human motivation is sometimes hard to understand... goodness knows, I have been involved with various aspects of human psychology for almost 40 years.
One of the things I always found interesting is that I have a "counterpoint" with those who actually get the biggest kick out of "looking forward to" things... but find far less joy in doing and sometimes almost outright depression at reaching the point of having done.
Perhaps it all speaks to where our general "time orientation" in life can be found: Future oriented; Present oriented; Past oriented.
In my own case, I expect my general dis-ease with ambiguity and uncertainty plays in. When you have done something, it becomes fixed, and concrete and largely unchangeable. And I rather like that... perhaps because my childhood and upbringing felt like a constant state of flux, in which nothing could be relied on to be consistent.
Not suggesting that any of this is the "right" or "wrong" approach... really just exploring different thought platforms, and what they perhaps say about us.
And I will really be happy about this blog post once it is finished and published!
Thanks for reading, and enjoy the rest of your week!
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Created at 2023-04-04 00:43 PST
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