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Growing up, I always knew family was the best thing anyone could ask for. I thought of it as a very strong tie, one based on love and support that could weather any storm, from shared laughs to the consolation of knowing there were people who had my back no matter what. A recent story challenged my stance on this issue. It’s a story of one guy, let’s call him Tope. He devoted his whole life to his family, prioritizing their wants and needs over his own. He put in years, leaving his aspirations aside, not taking on opportunities for his personal development, all so that his family had what they needed. He was their go-to in difficult times, the one person that kept the family together.
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Tope, after doing these things for years made a decision to put himself first for once. This was a decision of getting a new place and living alone with his fiancée. When he made this decision, his family treated him with no atom of compassion and support. They were hesitant to accept his change in priorities as they thought he should be committed to them and them alone. They drifted away, leaving him with the feelings of mere abandonment. He said that this served as a reminder that even the closest relationships may be put to the test and pushed to the points that may make them break. In his words “How could something that should be the best thing in the world end up being a source of pain?”
Well, in all these, I still strongly think that one’s family is among the best things they can have, even in light of this troubling story. There are countless stories of unwavering love and support for every one of conflict that has happened in a family . Because they are made up of people with their own needs, wants, and imperfections, families are surely not flawless. Misunderstandings will show up once in a while, but so will happy and meaningful moments.
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Personally, my family's support has been a pillar of strength throughout my life. They have shared in my victories, consoled me when I have failed, and even given me a wholesome feeling of community. The love we share has brought us closer, even when we argue over little things, we keep teaching one another the principles of empathy, forgiveness, and most importantly, patience. I think that balance is the key.
When individuals who are members of a family feel encouraged while developing and following their own paths, a family dynamic is considered healthy. It's about striking a balance so that self-care and thoughtful giving can coexist and no member of the family feels overburdened or less appreciated.
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In summary, the story of the guy who felt abandoned by his family serves as a reminder that one should create boundaries even when they are being thoughtful towards their family members, but it doesn't make light of the importance of family. The positives exceed the negatives in a lot of ways. It's about overcoming obstacles as a team, finding ways to develop both personally and professionally, and never losing sight of the love that is the true centre of it all.