I manage a free accountability group called Projess, where I post every day my progress.
In time, i've noticed that people-generally speaking-are reluctant to sharing their journeys, especially their struggles.
At first it felt normal, after all-not everything shouldn't be out in the public, right? But then I realized-here lies a great challenge and an even greater opportunity.
The challenge is that people feel reluctant to sharing their inadequacies for fear of being judged, or even marginalized. Whereas the opportunity is to achieve rapid transformation -orders of magnitude faster. The-truth-will-set-you-free kind-of-thing.
I also notice that people who pursue personal progress a lot more opened towards sharing their journey, maybe l because it might reflect positive on their image, or at least they don't feel there is something to hide. Whereas people who try to workout through some personal issues, will not be so opened towards sharing.
And so I was presented with a unique challenge, If I want to grow the group-which I absolutely do-I have to somehow bring it out in the public; but then the problem is that maybe not everyone would be willing to share their own struggles out in the open. Or maybe I'm wrong? I surely hope so.
And then how do you build a public community out of a private group?
How do you convince people to share their struggles when the fear of being judged is the only real, immediate promise?
The more I was thinking about it, I realized people's fears were not a complete fiction, but a crude reality of a society that demands perfection and deems inappropriate any, and all faults of the individual.
When fakeness is the cultural norm, admitting your struggles might truly mean a death sentence to your career and personal life. Or is it?
Ok, the fears might be real, but things are slowly changing. Recently, more and more prominent figures like celebrities are coming out in the light to admit things that otherwise they kept private for decades.
And these are people that stand to lose everything, with no real promise of something to be gained in return.So why do they do it?
This: to free themselves from the shackles of inauthenticity. They no longer want to be seen as perfect, but just a mere human being. Perfectly imperfect.
And if you think of it, it makes sense because, once you admit your faults you can no longer be attacked because there is nothing to defend, when you renounce perfection, your enemies have lost their only target. When you put the shields down, you already won.
A few days ago, I wrote about why people are reluctant to share their struggles.
It's because we think showing weakness means you are weak, but in fact, that's what makes you strong.
The Declaration of Independence. There is great power in taking things out in the open, bringing them into the light; for starters, you no longer see yourself as a victim of your circumstances, but a person with the agency over their life, holding a clear intention for betterment.
Openly admitting your struggles is a bold statement of refusal to continue down the same path that eventually cascades into a powerful identity shift.
But that's the key, a declaration of independence is always a public act. And for as long as you don't dare to go public with your intentions, you are never really free.
The problem with most people is that they try to solve impossible problems. And what makes a problem impossible to solve? Darkness, mystery, confusion; What helps solve a problem? Light, information, and openly discussing it.
True self-confidence is openly admitting your flaws while declaring independence from fear of being judged, and then going at war with your worst, to bring out the best in you.
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