Truth they say, is bitter... only if it could be truly tasted.
It's important to create an atmosphere of peace, a level of understanding and acceptance when communicating and associating with people and yeah, most people desire it. Also, when we have a circle of friends, each one of them expects special treatment and kind of expecting a partial judgment or one in their favour... well, they need to see life differently because they won't always get what they want.
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When I see black,... oh! I love to call it black and when I see white,... it'll be a pleasure to do same.
I love peace and carry a good amount of it wherever I go. What about joy? Yeah, I also carry some along with love to light up any room I enter.
In communication, there is a sender, a message, a receiver and a feedback. Communication between the sender and receiver is not complete if the receiver does not send a feedback. When a sender passes or transmits a message through a preferred medium, the receiver receives and decodes the message to interpret and send a feedback correctly. It's a feedback that determines a successful and effective communication. In a communication, the message is to be understood by the receiver in order for a feedback to be created. It is the duty of the sender to ensure that the message carries the information in a manner that the receiver will understand.
It's important for the purpose of communication to be accomplished, if not it becomes poor communication which leads to misunderstanding between people, unnecessary attitudes, anger, lack of trust and disunity.
It's important to take responsibility and own up to our mistakes, an apology shows how remorseful we are and willing to change to become better. It is also important to know when to stand firm in our truths and for what is right. Human beings are full of emotions and some are out to make you feel bad and apologize when you are not supposed to.
Even though I own up to my mistakes and feel remorseful for whatever wrong I do, I recognise those situations when I am to be firmly unapologetic and no forceful energy can creep in to make me feel less or wrong when I'm right, or make me compromise my values just to make "peace"...
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Well, it will be a risky game to play if I compromise my values and apologize when I am not to just for peace to reign. Apologising in situations when not necessary take away some slices of one's self-confidence and self-esteem.
Here are some necessary situations when I am unapologetically me:
- I can't be in an environment and watch things go wrong when it concerns me, instead, I will speak against it and ensure the receiver(s) gets the message I intend to pass correctly.
- I will not compromise my values of integrity, honesty, good morals and conduct, forgiveness, respect for any material reward or in favour of others because it is not right.
- Not giving up my hobbies and the things that make me happy and unique for any reason.
A clear example is this:
I was in communication with a friend on WhatsApp some time ago about health, the common sickness (malaria and typhoid) and the carelessness of some nurses and doctors in my country (Nigeria). As at then, I just concluded my treatment for malaria and typhoid and so he said that malaria lives in everyone, especially in Nigeria, no matter how much we treat it,... I told him that it doesn't live in me.
He was bent on convincing me, he said a doctor told him. As one who is mostly positive minded, I refused to believe and told him that, it's a story I won't believe. He said I should confirm from any doctor or nurse, I told him I don't need to do that, that some doctors and nurses don't know what they are practicing and gave him an instance of how I almost lost my younger sister because of the carelessness and inexperience of the doctor and nurse who treated her when she was receiving treatment in a hospital.
He said his mother who is a nurse also told him, I still refused to believe... I mean, why should I believe that malaria is living in me?
He was already angry, he sent voice notes explaining why I should believe, he said I ignored what he said, what he is sure about and his mum told him. Wow! I was surprised at where this was heading.
I adviced for change of topic and he was still angry and wanted to make sure I agree with him. I told him that there is no way I would agree to something negative because I do not want to believe that thing about malaria. I had to end the chat unapologetically and told him I won't say anything concerning it again.
So, I only save my apology for when I am truly sorry about a mistake or something I did wrong.
Again, truth they say is bitter, but maybe to those who do not seek for a change to be better.
This is my response to the prompt for the Thinker's Corner Contest Week 2 initiated by @kenechukwu97
Thank you friends for coming around to spend some time on my blog.
What's you take about my response to the prompt? How often do you apologize and will you agree to apologize in situations when you are right? See you in the comment section.
Love from @winanda ❤️