My Naija people!! How are you?
I can say I have little to no experience with what it takes to be in love or a relationship. But one thing I have learned over time through my relationships with people is to try as much as possible to learn from others' experiences. I have seen people enjoy and cherish each other till the very end, and I have also seen some people love just on the surface, which never lasted at all.
Where was the fault from? At times, some people fault them for not getting to understand each other during their dating days, or maybe they tend to ignore red flags, and then later on
turn to regret their decisions.
But some didn’t even date up to that and are being good and happy. What's the secret behind it?? There are times when you even see two very incompatible people come together, and then they happen to fall in love and last longer together.
There is the saying that “you can't know the true color of someone until you both are under the same roof,” so while dating, both parties might be under the same roof and not be plain with each other. There might be some sort of carefulness or pretentious acts just to make sure they are well portrayed to the other gender.
In the end, when marriage comes to seal the deal. Then they inject each other with their true nature. This way, if care is not taken, the marriage won't last an anniversary before it is discarded.
One thing I've come to know about love is that there should be no reason to love. If there is a reason you love someone, then it tends to bring about breakups along the way. If you love beauty. What will then happen when the beauty gets altered or fades? You love because of money, charisma, family, or any other things. What if those things turned their backs on you? How will you cope?
Love should be there to build on understanding, acceptance, accommodating, forgiving, and overlooking each other’s flaws. I watched an interview with an old couple. They were asked how the marriage survived decades, and then the husband said, Whatever she says is always right. Even though she might be wrong.
This is one way to grow love. The ability to accept one’s partners for who they are and not try to twist or turn them into what we want. That's just one way to remain true and sincere to each other.
I never wish for a broken marriage or broken home. But what if it happens that our love fades in just a year after marriage, what will be the way out?
The best thing to do is to try as much as possible to retain the relationship by bringing up new ways to accept each other. If there is a case of adjustment in characters, then it should be done; if it's in the aspect of appearance, then there should be adjustments. Then, if any of these adjustments didn’t work fine, there is nothing to do but to close down the relationship.
