Hello everyone,
It’s another beautiful moment to write for Hive Naija Prompt Week 92. Today, I’ll be talking about the one thing that no one can pressure me into doing, no matter what happens or what anyone says. In one word, that thing is "Marriage."
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So far, I’ve received a lot of pressure from different people, yet I’ve made up my mind not to give in because I’m simply not ready. It’s not that I believe marriage is a bad thing; in fact, I think it’s great. However, I strongly believe that one needs to attain a certain level of financial stability before diving into marriage, an institution that some even call "a journey of no return."
I have witnessed many homes lacking peace simply because the husband could not properly handle the financial responsibilities of the family. I have also seen marriages where the wife has no regard or respect for her husband because she is the sole provider. Something that, in my culture and tradition, is traditionally expected of the man. There have even been cases where men abandoned their families, leaving their wives and children behind, simply because they could no longer afford to provide for them due to the country’s harsh economic situation.
With all these experiences, I have decided that before getting married, I must ensure that my earnings are good enough to cater to myself, my wife, and at least one child. Without financial stability, I don’t see the point in rushing into marriage.
If I had yielded to the pressure from friends and family, I would have been married already. One of my colleagues at work is particularly persistent. He literally preaches to me about marriage every time we meet. He always tells me how his father got married at the age of 12, while he himself got married at 14. Honestly, I don’t know how true his story is, but regardless, his words don’t move me.
Marriage is a beautiful thing, and I believe it comes with blessings, as many people claim. However, I also believe in preparation before marriage. The blessings are more effective when they meet a prepared heart and a stable foundation. With this in mind, no one can pressure me into getting married while I am still striving for financial stability.
In conclusion, I encourage anyone reading this post to never allow pressure from anyone to push them into doing something they are not prepared for. No matter what people say, those same people may not be there to help when challenges arise.
Thanks for reading through, and I hope you found this interesting!