This prompt is like an example of someone's life changing overnight. What you knew all your life turned to be wrong and you suddenly feel like a this new identity you are just discovering. If a day came and I was told by my parents that I was adopted, I would be very very shocked. That kind of information is one that can change your entire system. I can't even imagineš
The first question I would ask them is their reason for telling me now. Because, really, why wait all these years and choosing to tell me now. Whatever the reason might eventually turn out to be, I would really want to know it. Not that it would change a lot though. I might just have so many questions and wonder about so many things, but yeah, my parents will still remain my parents, despite the fact that I was adopted by them. I mean, they are the ones I have known my entire life.
It's a thing to birth a child and it's another thing to care for them and bring them up. The way I see it is that anyone can give birth to a child, but real parents are the ones that are entirely responsible for them. The people I would recognize as my parents are the ones that has been taking care of me since I was an infant and also treated me like I was their own, that I didn't even notice I was adopted. I would be filled with so much curiosity though, and I will have so many questions. Who are my actual parents? Why did they decide to give me up? Are they looking for me? Why exactly?, etc. I don't where the answers will lead me, but knowing will just really satisfy my curiosity and help my head process things better.
I think I might be automatically mad at them (my actual parents) though, or have mixed feelings I will be sorting how to process. However, if there is a good and reasonable explanation and not just apologies, I might be able to forgive more easily. This wouldn't mean that I would accept them claim me as theirs though, knowing them would just be enough, I guess. Honestly, I don't even know, it will just be a really emotional moment, depending on the situation that might be on ground.
Everything is always easier to talk about if you are not actually in that situation. However, it's no doubt going to be a very confusing moment. Processing the information might even take a while too. Taking in the fact the people I knew as family all my life aren't actually related to me by blood. I will eventually have to accept that fact, but they will remain my family anyways.
From another point of view, I was still telling my mom few days ago that I would really love to adopt a child. Thinking about it now, I think I might get into the dilema of choosing to tell him/her about it or not. It is tricky though, I wouldn't want the child to feel like an outcast in anyway if he/she gets to know early. I just want to be able to love the child as much as I would love the ones that will come from me. I also feel like there might be the urge to let the child know at some point, to them the truth especially when they are much holder to handle it. What would be the best decison to take though? For an overthinker like me, I might think for it for a really long time before taking a decision. Most importantly, I would discuss it with my partner so we can rub minds together to come to a conclusion.
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