Anger is a powerful and complex emotion that can both energize and destroy. It can manifest in different ways, from mild irritation to intense rage. When we're angry, our hearts beat faster, our blood pressure rises, and our minds can become clouded with negative thoughts. It's like a storm brewing inside us, threatening to unleash its fury on others.
There are ways in which I manage my anger, I can choose to be silent and allow peace to reign or better speak up and scatter the whole situation, it only depends on which side I choose, or the rate at which the situation strikes me.
There are times in which I would choose to remain silent, this can happen when an elderly person makes me angry, especially my siblings, there was a time I got cheated on by my sister, it was so terrible that I got angry, I was furious within me, my mother saw that I was angry but she decided to be on my sister's side, she Supported my sister despite she knows that I was right and she was wrong, I couldn't express my feeling by yelling and let her know that what she did was wrong.
My spirit was hurt and my mother saw the expression on me, I had to manage my anger because I did not want to disrespect any of them, this is the situation where I have to remain silent anytime something like this happens, I always choose my words carefully when it comes to anger, anger can be destructive but can also be a motivating force for change.
I have learned from my previous mistakes, I am someone who loves to pour out my mind whenever I am angry but I learned a lesson from what happened to me some years back and this moment still hunt me, I was in secondary school when my sister did something that triggered my anger, I voiced out and expressed my displeasure by writing a letter to her and expressing my bitterness in it, I abused her with everything I know about her, I shamed her and let out some secret about her, I was so furious and can never control my anger not knowing that she kept the letter with her, this issue happen 15 years ago, she always remind me of it, I did what I did because of how furious I was at that moment without not thinking about the consequences.
I regretted what I did to her because my sister never forgot about the incident, and she never remembered what she did to me that year, she only held on to what I did to her, anger can bring out the other side of us, anger can becomes overwhelming or misdirected, it can lead to destructive behavior, harming ourselves and others. Uncontrolled anger can damage relationships, lead to physical altercations, or even result in violent outbursts.
Here are some strategies that have helped me in managing my anger
- I always take a deep breath and am not quick to react whenever I am angry, I always love to take a walk around the neighborhood whenever I am angry.
- Also music has been helping me to manage anger, I love to put in my earpiece and play my favorite song whenever I am angry and this has been a good way to shake the situation away.
- Express myself constructively, most times I love to Write, talk, or engage in physical activity to release tension.
By acknowledging and managing our anger, we can transform it into a positive force for change, rather than letting it consume us.
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