Every family starts with two persons coming together as one and with the agreement to build a home they move in and the work starts. As time progresses there is this one blessing that not only the couple involved look forward to but everyone who are aware of the union are so tensed and ask one question after the other. Some of the questions are a show of sincere concern while some are just there to make mockery of the whole situation. But any which way, everything about the family gets some upgrade when they begin to have new members in the home. Most parents make their plans in such a way that it will revolve around the children. So if any plan is not in favour of the kids there is always this adjustment to the plans or the party that should be a key player.
One major word I hear from my husband is, if we are not ready to take care of the children there is no justifiable point we should bring them to the world. He say this because on a daily basis we have come to see how many parents care less about the welfare of the kids with an excuse that they are working to make ends mate for the children. You will see a situation where both parents are just absent from home from morning till late in the night with the excuse they are hustling.
Bringing the kids into the picture of the pattern of the home early is very important. Personally in our home from the moment the kids starts to understand things even in simplest form we get to let them know which is which. It is best to bring them into the picture because it will help to sharpen their minds.
Talking about age of bringing the kids into the picture of what we do, to me I say there is no age limit. We are into missions and outreaches, I took it upon myself to help my partner communicate our movement to our children. So anytime we are to go for outreach he informs them. So before the age of 2 our first son began to hear things around our passion. When the freebies comes to the house, we do well to separate his own and inform him that what he sees there is for mission. He has grown with this mission mentality that almost every equipment at home he calls them mission equipment. This I will say has helped us stay away from lots of trouble and struggles.
On my own part, I get to let them know that my phone is an office and that has helped us in managing ourselves so well. My kids don't struggle to have my phone and that of their Dad.
If the kids grows with a pictorial view of what the parents does, it becomes easy for them to adjust to the situation they found themselves. It should not be a thing of struggle to let the kids know what one is doing to earn a living. It becomes a struggle when one is doing something that is not legal. When one is proud of what he does there is this sense of boldness that is built in the children. I have heard of kids who are ashamed to tell their friends of their parents career, some even go as far as lying or denying their parents in the presence of their friends. This one was a case with one of my cousins that told his friends that his father is his uncle simply because he was a bike rider. I have another friend who is into content writing with one of the platforms, a time came that she brought the two kids into the picture of what she is doing. As we speak today both of them are doing so well and they have come to the point of helping the parents in some way too.
In doing this too we as parents needs to be careful so as not to expose the kids to danger. For instance, sending the kids to huck goods on the streets can be very dangerous in the sense that they may be exposed to different dangers at the process of that. In all, we need to create good platform for our kids to flow and be sure they are not left at the mercy of anyone or the society. Our struggles should not rob us of spending quality time with the kids because if that is done we may end up using same money to solve the problems that they caused in our absence.
My entry to the Hive Naija Weekly Prompt. Do do wish us all happy moments with our kids and more. Thank You