We all know that humans are social beings and there's no way one can stay without socializing except the person isn't human. Just as our faces are different so also is our lifestyle and social life.
Some are social freaks or will I say social bees, always seen at wherever it's happening, at one event, show, party or the other - whether invited or not, lol. Just do not make any mistake of saying there's an event coming up on so so place at so so date around them, because they will arrive there before you, hehehe. Their gbedu is above one hundred percent, never a dull moment. Infact they represent E, for energy wella, lol.
There are also the non social types who prefer to not always be seen in public. It's not not these set of people do not appreciate the socal life, they just have limits to it and prefer being in their own world than out there socializing.
With this analysis, I would say that I fall into the category of the non - social, lol. I know most of you wouldn't believe this about me after seeing how active I am on Hive, well, Hive is quite different from the real world.
Being a non social person is not something I'm ashamed of or angry if someone refers to me as one. Everyone mustn't be a social bee, there should be a balance. It's not that I do not appreciate the social life, I'm not just wired to be all that. I prefer my own company or the company of a small group of close friends and family, maybe that's one thing about being a minimalist. I do appear in the social space but it's usually often. I have only attended three social events since this year, two of which are funeral ceremony.
I remember whenever one of my close friends says "Nne, but you need to come out more, join some social affiliations" My reply will always be "I have heard you, I will" which of course I never do. Where will I have the time and strength to be attending one social event or the other, abeg oo.
One of my colleagues will always tease me thus "there's no need inviting you to this event because you won't come"
I can tell you that some people see me as one who is so full of herself and doesn't like associating with people. Well that's their headache. I socialize when it's needed but I set boundaries and maintain my space.
The benefits of being a non social person isn't something to be argued about. It gives one more time for self-reflection, self care and concentrating on things to better their lives including less stress from social interactions and too many entanglement.
Being a non social person have affected my relationship with others in some good and some bad ways.
The positive effect is that it makes my relationships both romantic and platonic, with others deeper and more meaningful because I'm not distracted by superficial social interactions.
My best friend till date is a non social type, just like me, you know birds of a feather flock together, lol. We've been friends for over two decades and half now and the friendship has knitted both our families together. Call us friends turned sisters and you won't be wrong.
Even when I was dating, If I notice that you are a social bee, I won't get along with you. I just don't want stress, abeg, I had to end one because he was always at one event or the other. When will he then have time for us, lol.
On the other hand, since I'm not inclined to go out and socialize more, making new friends doesn't come so easy that's why I have just few friends, those who understand me and we are good.
Coming to the social media, that one is even worse, lol. The only active social media account I have is WhatsApp because it's my second office so to say, and then Hive. I have Twitter, LinkedIn, YouTube, Facebook, and Telegram, but they are just there occupying space in my phone like mass. I'm sure some of you I follow on Twitter know how active I am, lol. I once had Instagram but uninstalled it because I don't understand what they do there. I managed to build my Facebook account to 2k plus but I rarely go there now.
Whether as a social person or non social, we all are unique in our ways. I do admire all these social type of persons, it's not really easy to manage social life, work and other activities. I can't deal that's why I beg you to allow me to enjoy my non social life, hehehe.
Many thanks for stopping by to read and engage.
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