The truth is, there will always be problems and issues of various kind, small, big, unbearable ones and all, but the things is, we all handle them differently. Some run to their best pals, some to their parents, some even go all the way to rant, cry and complain all about it on the social media, whereas there are some like me who just sit first, process it, and try to handle it alone before bringing anyone else in.
I dont know if it was how I was raised, or maybe it was life itself that shaped me that way, I’ve just never been the type to scatter, rant or share my problems around, you can't ever see me hopping from this person to that person telling them my problems, its not pride at the same time, its not being secretive. Its just who I am, just that humans Atimes does not always have the right intention and if they do not all can handle the truth. Aside that also, am the type of person who runs inspirational, motivational stuffs on my WhatsApp, sometimes I do it using anonymous, some just random, and different people come to me for help, for advise, some just say "Milliracle, I need help", some just want to let it all out, its not as if I don't have issues too, but I derive happiness from being able to help, and sometimes when I do, I, at the end of the day see that I have helped myself also.
Also, I’ve faced things, real things, life-threatening issues, ones that shakes me to my very core, and if there’s one thing I took away from those experiences, it’s that God always, always shows up.
I remember a time when I was stuck in a situation(health wise), it was so right and hard that I and everyone thought, this might be the end for me. It wasn’t the kind of problem that a phone call could fix, not the type that just money could take care of, it was one that we all know, "only if a miracle happens". It was just me me, my thoughts, my fear, and God. I called on Him, and He answered. That moment changed me. It made me realize that before I run to anyone, before I open my mouth to even explain what’s wrong, I must first talk to the One who actually holds the solution. And He has never, not even for once has HE disappointed me.
And, to be honest, there are times when things get heavy, when the burden feels like too much to carry alone. After I have prayed and did all I could, after long hope wants to make my mind weary, I turn to one other person, and that's my mum, not that she is the solution, but because I know the kind of reassurances I can get from her, she has seen life far more than me,so she can advise and most importantly, I know that she won’t just listen, she will take them to God in prayer as well.
Personally, I dont subscribe to telling everyone your problems just because you want a solution, collecting different or too many ones(opinions) will drown out the real solution. Some problems don’t need exposure, they just need you to pray and have faith. I reach out to people too, but am careful of who I reach out too, not everyone, even those close to me deserve access to my struggles.
Also, growing up here in Nigeria, we all have the believe that challenges are just stepping stones to something great and worthwhile. We just have to either adapt or push through, so as to survive. Like I said earlier, we are all different, some find solace in family, some in friends, and others like me, find solace in a quiet corner, whispering my fears to God before involving anyone else.
We handle things differently, and that's not bad, we not all same. Life has shown me that no matter what I face, I am never alone. I have God, and when needed/necessary I have my mum too, most importantly, I have that quiet confidence that every problem has an expiry date, it won't last, it does not rain forever.
All pictures are mine, which also includes screenshots of my WhatsApp status and the anonymous I did.