A lot of things about my habits, interests, and lifestyles have shifted over the years as I continue to grow and evolve in my world. Obviously, these changes have impacted my life for good. Sometimes I begin to wonder if maturity brings changes or simply exposure, maybe the kind of knowledge we expose ourselves to, our environment, the people we mix up with, and so on. Whatever, the most important thing is that I am no longer where I was before in terms of habits and lifestyle, and the changes I have experienced brought a positive shift in my life.
One of those significant changes has been the way I react quickly in a moment of misunderstanding with people. Those days, after reacting so quickly with emotions, I will feel like retrieving my words. However, I have learned over the years and through some of my experiences to really pause a bit and be slow to respond. I have had unnecessary conflicts that lingered due to the way I handle misunderstandings with people, and instead of building and strengthening a healthy relationship, it makes it weaker the more, and how does that help me?
Gone are those days; my lifestyle in that regard has taken a shift! When issues arise, I try to wear patience like a garment and know the right time to respond. Pausing a bit before reacting to arguments with someone is a value I have learned to hold in high esteem and without regrets in my dealings with people so far. Another change I have experienced as I continue to grow and evolve is the kind of circles I keep. I think naturally I started dropping certain people in my life who are not living in line with the kind of lifestyle I want in life. Friends who don't inspire me to grow but somehow make me deviate from my personal values. A lot of times when these kinds of people ask me why I started growing cold in our friendship, I will almost have nothing to reply to them, but deep down within me, I have disconnected from them. We are just parallel lines that can't meet, but obviously, their interests and lifestyles are simply odd to me.
Emotionally and mentally, I see myself improving consistently on taking decisions in this regard. In the past , I may clique with anyone that comes close to me and keep tagging along, but as I continue to evolve, I see changes in my manner of approach to this subject.
Finally , I have experienced changes in the manner I get anxious over circumstances in the past. I can worry a lot over little things, being tense on things I should really be calm about and watching everything unfold. All the time I was so anxious over circumstances; it never changed anything, but rather I suffered in my flesh. We are humans, and it's natural to be worried over something, but being less anxious whenever I face situations has helped me to think critically on the way out rather than dwelling in anxiety.
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