The journey of life is not one that is just about bee, flowers and honey, in which the bee makes honey for everyone to come take. Sometimes, the bee (life) stings and it hurts real bad.
They told us that "a journey of a thousand miles begins with a step," however, they did not remind us to take a water bottle. They didn't inform us of the predators that lurks around and the holes we may fall in. No school taught us this, but then, subconsciously, we learnt, we applied, we failed and we rose - hoping to win against all odds.
My people say - big man, big wahala, meaning when you are a big man (rich man) you will have big problems, however, this doesn't stopp me from being that big man. Let the big problems come, we will navigate through it just as we are navigating through these "small" ones.
There is no how a person can avoid troubles. Where you go out or not. Sometimes, you will just stay on your own, minding your business and one trouble from nowhere unexpectedly comes your way. If left unsolved or unattended to, it may cause a whole lot of harm.
Everybody have their diverse ways of handling a problem they find themselves. Some, the independent ones, prefer to buckle up the problems, feel the pain alone and look for a solution after a round of sadness.
Some people on the other hand, believe in the saying of a problem shared is a problem half solved. The prefer to share their problems in search of solutions. Welp, some use it to find pity from other people. Anyways, irrespective of any category, the major thing is to have the problems solved.
My problem solving techniques is largely dependent on the problems I face.
I use to be the type that believe in doing things solo. Or let's rephrase. I am actually the type that does things solo. When I win, I win alone and when I face a problem, I do it alone.
Things began to change when I started being close to my kid brother, my family's last born. Compared to my elder brother, I prefer to tell my kid brother my problems irrespective of the fact that he's inexperienced in life. His recommendations will not provide solutions, but then, he will never judge me, instead, he will just listen, and give the best advice he can give.
He's actually my favorite sibling. However, I don't tell him most of my problems, especially the ones that are really bad because in my eyes, though he's grown up, I still see him as a kid.
Majorly, I prefer to tell nobody of my problems. The reason for this is that, I believe that - when I tell somebody my problems, they will show pity and sympathy which I really hate. I guess that's why I love telling my kid brother my problems. He don't show these attributes.
Sometimes, people will go as far as telling other people your problems, and you will end up being the story of the day. They will be discussing your problems like commentators discussing a football match.
People use to say; a problem shared is a problem half solved, but for me, a problem shared is a weakness shared. People will want to use it to weigh me down in every way possible, so, it's better to shut up and find solutions. Maybe that's a weird way of thinking, but then, let's tell ourselves the truth.
I've been in situations where I tell people my problem, and they share it with some other people. Sometimes, if I tell somebody my problems, their first reaction is to show pity. Gosh, there's nothing I hate more than being pitied. It makes me feel weak, hopeless and helpless, and I will want to subconsciously begin to want to depend on the person that shows pity which will not end well for me.
Thank you for reading.