TRAIN UP A CHILD IN THE WAY HE SHOULD GO

I made some rules to be followed before I officially started dating my partner, don't get me wrong I did not make the rules alone, we both made the rules but he has to talk about his rules and I did state mine and one of the rules I stated was,(this one you are just saying"rules" it's like you are in a barracks relationship 🤣). No matter how angry we are and we want to communicate how we feel we are not permitted to raise our voice to shout while communicating how we feel about the situation our neighbor next door must not hear about it, also no matter how angry you are, you must communicate your feelings, what did I do that made you angry, what do you want me to do instead of doing or saying that which I said or did.

Secondly, no matter how angry you are or how goofy and playful you are, no insults are allowed. Don't get me wrong, we play, and sometimes I call him names, but these names are not insults; cases of you are mad, you are a fool, and you are an idiot is not allowed. He agreed with everything and also stated his rules. I, too, agreed with everything he said, and we have been sailing the relationship smoothly 😝 although there are little here and there quarrels and disagreements, we still stand strong. One of his rules is never to go to bed angry but I do that a lot because tell me why I will be angry and you will say sorry all my anger will just go to waste, no it can't happen I need baby gal treatment to calm me down or else I won't listen to your sorry.

Now all these are a product of what my parents showed and how they showed it while I was growing up. My mum never insulted my dad. One day, I racked my brain, and I can't remember any occurrence of that, and it goes both ways. My Dad also never did. My parents never fought in our presence they never did, oh they did and it was just once, one time my mum wanted to go cook for a traditional wedding of her niece and my Dad refused although I didn't get his reasons he refused to allow her passage and while they were there arguing I did not hear 1 insult from both of them. While they were struggling, my Dad pushed my mum and said if she passed that door, she should not come back. My mum just went inside, and the same person who pushed her was the same person who boiled water for her to bathe and cooked for her. My elder sister just sighed and said, "Una no know wetin de do una," and that was the first and last time I saw them quarrel; my mum called I and my sisters to talk to us after some years and said, marriage is not smooth, but you have to make it smooth. We never knew so many things until we came of age to think for ourselves, and I'm talking about four years ago. Meanwhile, I'm in my mid-20s.

Moral of the story:

* create a safe environment for your kids to be nurtured*

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