What is Anger? Anger can be described as a strong feeling of displeasure, hostility or antagonism towards someone or something. Anger is an emotion, and like any other emotion if not managed well can lead to a much negative result.
Am I silent or expressive when angry? I am the type of person who very much value my peace of mind, if it can be settled with a simple apology even though I am not the one in the wrong I simply do it and let the matter end there and then, so I usually go the silent way and before you know I would have already forgotten about the matter even though the person later on does not apologize. Peace of mind is more important than anything
Let me give a scenario, let's say you throw a stone on a glass and the glass shatters, even if you tell the glass sorry from now till eternity it will not fix the glass to its previous state. I like this quote from the bible in Ephesians 4:26 which says "be angry but sin not". Being angry is very natural after all we are but flesh and blood and we are not perfect. Being angry is excusable but what you do or say when being angry is what matters. Let us say out of anger I hit somebody with a stick and blood gushes out, being sorry and saying sorry still would not change the fact that I harshly wounded somebody, if I were to be arrested, me explaining to the police that I did what I did because I was angry will not help my case at all.
Getting in an altercation, one of the best things to do is just to do is just say sorry and de-escalate the whole situation or simply just leave the environment. Many people think because you concede or try to defuse the situation it makes you weak or the lesser person, so by arguing at the top of your voice or throwing blows or winning an illogical argument, you are the higher person or the top dog? is that not foolish and totally unnecessary, is it not better to end it on a peaceful note, if the person does not intend to listen you simply leave that environment.
Many regrettable actions we have taken in the past is as a result of not properly managing our emotions and it can cost us things or people because like I said earlier sorry does not fix everything, imagine saying some very hurtful words and someone decides to cut you off no matter how you apologize.
I recommend keeping silent when angry then when you think you and the other party is rational and emotionally stable you can then bring up the matter and peacefully settle making sure that no resentment and bad blood is left behind so that both parties can move on peacefully and can still relate with each other in good faith.
I with end on this note, learn how to manage your emotions properly, not just anger even something like lust if not checked well and in time can lead to a disastrous result.
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