Hello everyone
I really feel bad that I've been offline for quite some days now, but I'm happy that at least what took me off line actually went well, though it's not yet over, but I'll see how to blend it all, and manage my time effectively. Feels so good to be back, though I've really missed a lot, but hoping to catch up.
As right said; different people have different ways of solving and handling problems, some choose to confide in their friends, others their family members, while others choose to handle their challenges their own way, but mostly people that choose to handle or keep their problems to themselves mostly is as a result of betrayal or hurt, or other reasons best known so rather than letting people escalate the problem, they choose to keep it to themselves and handle it their way, but i would say that is not always the best way out, i believe that there is someone we can all share our problems with, without being scared or worried, someone we trust and confide in them.
But looking at my own aspect, I once loved handling my problems myself, though It's often said that a problem shared is a problem half solved, but due to my past experiences I decided to keep my problems to myself so as to avoid being hurt or betrayed again. So I channel it in prayers, where i would choose to cry, pray, and ask God to step in, God will step in, but it would still be through people that he would bring solutions to the problems. And since I discovered that, I chose my confidant and that has been a great help and relief for me.
So I discovered that keeping my problems to myself isn't the best solution in handling problems, although there are certain things one can handle, but there are others that seem to shallow you up so you need someone to confide in and share your challenges.
As earlier said, I love handling things my own way, but since the last encounter I had i decided to confide in either my sister or my brother, It was at that point I discovered that our greatest gift is the gift of good people around you, i thought i could handle it as always but i couldn't, but even with the pains, worries i still believed i could handle it, but when my strength, and ideas failed, I had to voice it out because I was almost loosing my mind, and i couldn't say it to my mum because if I do, I can imagine the outcome of it, so I absorb it, but i was killing myself, my mother became so worried and had to call my sister, and she advised me on how to go about it, and it actually worked, since then i vowed never to take such risk again.
God is the ultimate source of all things, (God First) then a trusted person as second, we have to choose either a friend or family member as our confidant. Hence, looking up to Him in the face of problems is paramount but also God passes through people to bring solutions to our problems, so trusting God is a major aspect but also learning to share our problems is a way that God will bring solutions to those problems.
I choose to make my sister and my brother my confidants because they tend to understand me, see reasons with me for certain things, believe in me without judging me, being available and giving me a listening ears always, they always stand by me in finding solutions to problems, also correct me where I need to be corrected with love, and since I made that decision, i enjoy every moment, because they always see problems as a builder of courage, strength, also an opportunity for growth, as well as an avenue to be better so as to have a story to tell the younger generation on how you fight, conquer and win.
So confiding in them always spur up my spirit, motivate me not to see problems as not a demoter rather as a lifter, but that is possible if you change your mindset about your view of challenges or problems.
The people we share our challenges with have a vital role to play on how we handle or manage challenges, some sharing problems only escalate the problems, others it brings a refreshed idea and mindset about problems and how it can be handled with ease, though some may not provide solutions to the problems immediately, but their advice, love, encouragement, support, availability etc always goes a long way in scaling you through the problems with ease.
Finally, sharing problems is a way of relieving ourselves of the burden of depression, pains, anxiety e.t.c God has blessed us with a greatest gift which is man, So believe in God and learn to share challenges with trusted person and stay happy and joyous always, though hardwork will be demanded in the process to overcome, but it's possible and achievable.
Thank you for reading to the end.
I still remain @pricelessudy