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So before I decided to write about this topic I had to look up the meaning of rivalry. according to the Oxford English Dictionary, a rival is a person or thing competing with another for the same objective or superiority in the same field of activity. With this kind of definition, we have come to understand that a rival can be anyone at all no matter the space or activity you find yourself.
As a football fanatic, we tend to see and experience rivalry all the time. This is normal cause we can’t all support the same teams. Amidst all of this, we still have a very strong rivalry within this. We sometimes tend to build up on this rivalry because of the history of both clubs or sometimes within the club.
One thing we must understand here is that being a rival doesn’t make you an enemy at all. You can be a rival simply cause you are competing for the same thing with someone on the other side. Imagine competing for a job with someone else, at that point you become a rival cause you all would like to be selected for the job, that doesn’t make you enemies, in fact in most cases you even build friendships from that point in life.
Sibling rivalry is a thing and am sure this is something that happens in every home. Sibling rivalry can be seen when we are little and are all staying under one roof. Sibling rivalry comes about cause the children are always competing for the love of their parents. It can become intense at times because one party may feel like the love he or she is receiving from the parent is not up to the level the other child is receiving. If this is not taken care of it might end up causing problems in future. This can sometimes cause hatred among children who are supposed to grow up and have a genuine love for each other.
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I’ve mostly only seen or noticed this type of hated sibling rivalry amongst children who had parents loving one of the children because or she was the well-behaved child and then the other party had to feel the wrath of the parents because he or she was the stubborn or should I say the black sheep in the family.
When one of the children is the black sheep in the family this has to be handled carefully because, in the end, the child will feel left out. He or she will feel like he was not loved by his parents even though both of them were brought onto this earth by the same parents. This tends to create hatred between the siblings.
A perfect example can be seen ok the bible between Joseph and his brothers. In this bible story, Joseph was his father’s beloved son and his other brothers knew it. Instead of the parents finding a better way to handle it, they made it obvious and this ended up creating enmity between the brothers as Joseph was hated by his brothers. They couldn’t understand why their father had to love him more than them.
At the end of the day the father loved him that way cause he was a special child but the situation fell apart even before the father could realise. Imagine Joseph was killed by the people he was sold to by his brothers. That would have been very bad.
Sibling rivalry should be a normal thing but shouldn’t have to escalate because the children feel less loved.
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