Through the years I've seen a lot of couples indulge in one form of misunderstanding or another, some so bad that they even end up beating each other up, and some end with abuse, curses, and words like I wish I never met you. Each time I see all this, I can't help but wonder where these people get it all wrong. I mean, come to think of it, a few years back, if you were to see this set of people, both would have the opinion that their partner is the next best thing after jollof rice, so what's with the sudden change? Or basically, why do couples fall out of love with their partners? And peradventure that were to happen, what should be the next line of action? In this article I'll be exploring this thought-provoking scenario and how I'd handle it if I were to find myself there.
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I don't pray I find myself in such a situation, and neither do I wish such for anyone; in fact, my desire is that the love I have for my partner keeps on soaring as the years go by. But then in response to this prompt, peradventure such were to happen, it's important that the first line of action isn't to take any step or start pointing fingers, but to take a pause to think things through and also ask myself some important questions, such as how did I find myself in such a situation? Do I actually love my partner, or has it all been infatuation all along? Is it that I'm expecting perfection, or do I just not know what it takes to nurture love? Answering all of these questions truthfully is one step towards a solution.
For me it's highly important to answer those questions honestly, because the truth is that stepping forever with someone you don't love isn't always easy at all. I mean, such a person will just be existing and cohabiting without being genuinely happy, and marriage ought to be a safe haven that puts a smile on one's face after the drama of the outside world. So what then will I do after answering all of those questions? Would I come out plain and ask for a divorce, or would I look for ways to restore the lost love?
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One of the reasons people fall out of love nowadays is because we sometimes stop doing some of the things we do during courtship, and those were the things that strengthened our love and understanding. Stopping such can lead to fading love, and that's why it's actually important to open up to one's partner about the issue at hand so you guys can work towards building back the love and making the rest of your lives the very best of life, so doing those things can play a huge role in reviving the love. Another thing is how we get overall engaged with routine and forget how to catch up with one another; creating time to bond can go on to create that spark once again.
After trying all of the above and things don't seem to go as planned, that's not a yardstick to cut ties and just divorce and see other people. There are still other options, such as seeing a professional like a therapist or counsellor to help us out as an expert in the field. They might have hacks or tips we don't know about that can help resuscitate our dying love, and I won't be ashamed to seek help during such trying times. I mean, for me to have taken a bold step to go into marriage with my partner, then I must have seen something extraordinary in her, and I won't let a fading love deprive me from enjoying forever with someone I adored to the point of getting married to.
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So that's about what I'll do if I notice my love for my partner is fading after just a year of getting married. Basically, all that I stated above is deeply rooted in taking intentional action towards resuscitating the dying love.