My mother will say that everybody has a small demon called anger residing in them, even newborn babies do display anger when they are hungry or something is irritating them.
Some people know how to control their anger, while others don't. Whenever they are angry, they express it in a bad way.
I will tell a little story of the day I was pushed to the extreme that I had no choice but to lash out without minding who was involved.
I had this Anuty who happened to be wealthy, she had money more than everybody in the family, and she was generous whenever she came back for any festival, she would buy things for the whole family, everybody was sure of getting things like shoes, bags, clothes and sometimes phone or iPad.
So because of her generous giving, when she is at home, she won't do anything but command everybody like we are slaves; although most of her words are harsh, we all tolerate her because she is helping most of us.
She was my mother's younger sister, but each time, she would speak to my mother like she was her child, and my mother was this quiet type who could take any insult just for peace to reign. Honestly, it was annoying me but since my mother doesn't react, nobody seems to mind. We all will let go but deep down. I just wish my mother would react and shut her up.
This continues that any year she said that she would come home, nobody would come back. It's only she and her son and my grandma that will stay. After she has gone back, that's when everybody will now travel to see Grandma, and we will all enjoy the holiday.
She talks to me anyhow, sometimes, she will embarrass me even in public, and when I want to act, I will just hold back because of home training, but I was gradually losing it. One year, I lost my elder brother, and emotions were high. Everybody has to come back for his burial; she was pissing everybody off with her constant nagging and complaints.
I managed to endure till after my brother's burial, I did all the cooking and every preparation, and she just sat at a place dishing orders like a queen. The following morning, I guess because I cried a lot during the burial, I fell sick and couldn't cook. She came to call me and I told her, that I can't cook, let someone else do it.
That's how she said I was lazy and no man would marry me with this kind of attitude and then turned to my mother that she doesn't know how to train a child, ordinary headache that i will take paracetamol, am lying down here pretending to be seriously sick.
That's it; I lost it instantly and snapped at her; I told her, she is the reason nobody wants to accept help from anyone in this family. Cause each time she gives us anything, insults will follow. In fact, let her stop bringing anything for me or my family. We can survive without her. After all it is only December, she do remember us, not like she gives us anything in other months. She was shocked and turned to look at others. Everybody started expressing their anger towards her.
After that time, I ban my entire family from taking anything from her. Instead the entire family stopped, until she repented. Till date I never regretted my actions that day.
I don't easily get angry; I can tolerate someone's bad attitude for years before you see me react; the person must have overstepped their boundaries. Most of the time, if I am angry, I will just leave the house or put on music to calm down, and it has helped me to overcome problems well.
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