Every parent wants to have children they can be proud of. Nobody prays to have a child that will become a shame in society. We all wish for children who will be well-behaved, respectful, and useful to themselves and others. But sometimes I ask myself, “If my child behaves exactly like me, will that be a good thing or not?”
To be honest, I have some good traits that I’d love to see in my children. For example, I’m very patient. I hardly rush things. Even when someone annoys me, I try to keep calm. I also care about people. I don’t like to see others suffer. These are things I believe will help my children grow up with good hearts. I’m also hardworking. I don’t like depending on others too much. I try my best to do what I can, even when things are hard. I believe this is something that will help them survive in this tough world.
But I also have some habits I don’t want them to copy. Sometimes I overthink too much. I can keep quiet even when I should talk, I can be too soft. If my child takes that part of me, will they be able to stand up for themselves when life gets hard? That’s the part that worries me.
Imagine God gave me the power to select the behavior of my future child. What kind of child will I design? Hmmmm this question is logical but the truth is that I’ll choose a child that has a kind heart. Someone who respects people no matter their age or class. A child that tells the truth, even when it’s hard. I want them to be confident, not proud. I want them to be strong not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually.
I’d love them to have wisdom. Not book knowledge alone, but common sense. The kind that helps them know when to speak and when to be silent. When to fight and when to walk away. Life needs balance, and I want them to have that. I also want them to be funny. Yes, life can be hard, but laughter helps. If my child can bring joy to people, that’s a gift. I won’t mind if they are naturally cheerful.
Physically (phenotype), I don’t care too much. Whether they are tall or short, dark or fair, fat or slim, I will love them the same. But of course, I would like them to be healthy, neat, and have a bright smile. If they have good posture and clear skin, it’s a bonus.
When it comes to genotype, I’m very serious. I’d prefer AA. I don’t want a child that will suffer because of health conditions. That’s why couples need to know their genotype before marriage. Love is not enough when health is at risk. My mother always tells me that, children learn more by watching than by listening. If I want my children to have good behavior, I must first work on myself. I must try to be a better version of myself. Because the truth is, our children reflect who we are.
This is my entry for this week's prompt #smp-w13
