Hello, everyone.
I welcome you to my blog. One of the things that makes your life either interesting or boring is the type of friends you keep. If you keep friends who are boring and too sensitive such that they cannot catch a joke when one is cracked, then I am sorry, as you are on a rollercoaster filled with ups and downs and then you apologizing every now and then. I try as much as possible to pick the type of people I associate with. The truth is no matter how picky you are, you'd mistake some persons to have some qualities that they actually lack.
How I see friendship might differ from how people see it, but no matter what, I am sticking to how I see it. I see friendship as more of a 50-50 thing and it should never be one-sided. When only one person keeps watering the friendship, it will eventually die after putting the person watering the friendship through a lot and scaring them for life, and for that reason it is important that parties involved in either a friendship or a relationship invest the same amount of energy in the friendship just to see it work.
When a friendship is one-sided or one person values the friendship or relationship more than the other, then it is only a matter of time before everything comes crashing down, but when both parties value the friendship or relationship and are investing in it equally or just enough to make the friendship or relationship work, the bond becomes stronger and better such that it will require a lot to actually break it or cause it to come crashing down.
I had a childhood friend. I valued our friendship because most of my childhood memories were shared with him, and it is hard for me to come up with any childhood memory that he did not feature in because we were always together and spent most of our time together, but we got separated when my dad was posted to a new service area, and all we had to keep in touch with and keep the friendship alive was our mobile phone.
The friendship was going well until it wasn't anymore. He hardly calls, but I kept trying to reach out, and sometimes he does not even pick up and does not return calls. At some point I also stopped checking in, and we go months without talking, and when we do, he's the one calling to ask for a favor. He only calls when he needs my help, either an urgent 2k or data, and then when he finally calls to seek help, he first of all starts by saying, "You don't forget me na," meaning I have forgotten about him. All that is more like guilt trip me and make me feel bad, and in order to make up, I will end up sending what he is about to ask for.
I saw through his games, and I realized that the phone works both ways. I did not reach out, and you did not either, but I am the bad person; I am the one that forgot about you. He called again and tried to use the same card, and I stopped him immediately and hung up, and that was the end of our friendship to date. When distance comes between you and a friend or a loved one, try to reach out too and not make it look like the phone only works from their end and not from your end.