Good Morning Everyone
Happy Sunday Loveliesđź’–
Happy New Month 🎉♥️
It's another blessed and blissful week, and a new month, I woke up feeling happy and blessed, dressed up for church, on arriving church this morning I ran into an old friend, we have been friends for years, sang together, ate together, camped together, and did plenty things friends could do, but 4yrs ago we had some issues and she never apologized for betraying me so much.
When she saw me, she came to greet me, I reciprocated but in a cold way, after the sermon I was about going, when my sister advised me to approach her, I really didn't want to approach her again but I felt the need to do so.
When we were having a dialogue, I got to realize that she assumed everything would be fine and normal because of the time , distance, and silence all these years . She thinks I have moved on and healed from the pain of betrayal.
She never apologized or was never accountable for her actions in the past and she expected me to heal because I never spoke to her.
It's funny, that most people that never apologized for wronging another person,thinks in few years everything is just going to be normal.
An apology should come with accountability for your action and an effort to make things work.
People might heal with time, but it doesn't take back or undo your actions to them. It still hurts.
You fail to recognize you are wrong or take responsibility for your action and make proper amend.
If you have ever wronged someone, don't expect time or distance to do what apology would do, own up to your mistake and apologize sincerely. If you value a friend and the friendship you share apology is the right thing to do, you don't go about hurting people and expect time to do the healing, the right thing to do is put more effort into apologizing.
Back to my story, I approached her and we had a sincere conversation, she apologized and we both felt good, had drinks and will be hanging out tonight.
It feels really great and I'm happy I approached her, I figured out she was shy , but I had to make her understand that I forgave her all these years and all I wanted was a sincere apology from her, to show she value what we share.
Thanks for reading, I'm so grateful đź’–