Hi everyone, its been a while i have been on hive to write and i am glad that i am back. Today, I want to talk about something that might sound surprising the idea that the world is actually working to make our lives better. I know it sounds strange, but just stay with me for a while and you will understand what i am trying to say.
The word is paranoia. Paranoia is when someone believes that people are trying to harm them or that the world is against them. It’s that feeling that someone is always watching or planning something bad even when it is just your thought. I’m sure you’ve heard of it before. In fact, I know some people who really think this way. Because of that they don’t accept food from strangers or even from their own neighbors and also their families because they’re scared it might be poisoned.
It might sound extreme and also it might not make sense but this is how some people protect themselves. They’re always afraid something bad will happen, so they try to stay safe by keeping their distance and saying no to anything that feels risky and at the same time some things that are not risky.
But what if, instead of thinking the world is against us, we started thinking that maybe the world is actually trying to help us? That maybe good things are coming our way because we deserve it and even when we don’t expect it.
As we all know, there is usually an opposite to everything in this world and for the word paranoia, the opposite is something called pronoia. Pronoia is the idea that the world is not against us, but actually for us and everything is working for us and it means that everything happening in your life even the hard or confusing parts is working out for your good in the long run.
Have you ever noticed that after something bad happens, something good often comes out of it? I’ve seen this so many times in my own life. I’m not just saying it but i’m speaking from experience and when I talk to other people who have faced tough times, it’s interesting because most of them say the same thing. Even though they went through pain or difficulty, they often say they don’t regret what happened, because something better came out of it. Sometimes, those hard moments lead us to where we’re really meant to be.
Most of them that experienced heartbreak then, they've all found the person that really loved them and made them significant unlike before and this kind of situation wouldn't have happened if not for the heartbreak..... Have y'all ever wondered whether all the things happening now are just to get us better and developed to our better self and every challenges is for a reason.
Think of a hardest time in your life, that you wish you won't ever go through it again, maybe 5 or 10years ago and check everything you've learnt during those process to become who you are really and you would realize that they are part of your development and the question is are you grateful you went through those challenges?..... Truly it's not good to go through these things but what's great is what came out of it.
When you start to look your life through the lens of pronoia in the sense that you think that if the challenge, like break up, being cheated on, a death in the family, whatever it might be, if we look at those challenges as if they are placed in our lives for our benefits, for us to learn and grow and we are also forced to look at every person the exact same way..... Instead of looking at those challenges in. Bad way, endeavor to learn something out of it.
Let’s be honest, life can really suck sometimes and there are moments that feel so heavy and so painful, that it seems like you can't take it anymore and at times it might even feel like giving up is the only option but even in those darkest moments, try to hold on and believe in yourself and obviously trust the process. Life has a way of shaping us through the struggle, it might not make sense now, but one day, you will look back and realize that going through those hard times made you stronger, wiser, and better. It won’t always feel this way. Light does come after darkness, just keep going until you’re becoming who you were meant to be.
Thanks for reading ❤️