Worries can lead our thoughts into being cautious of every action we will make. Someone will start to think if what we have done was fine to other people. Didn't find them uncomfortable or if they didn't misunderstand you. Those who think in advance are just the one who's hurting themselves emotionally. Even if no one thinks like that towards someone, a corrupted mind will assume that someone thinks bad towards him/her. The imagination will create false happenings that actually didn't exist for those who always worried about their personalities.
Of course, it's important to adjust the behavior, especially when mixing yourself in a group of people. You are trying to fit in instead of letting people approach you. Although being true to yourself is better compared to being someone else, the time will come that you will be suffocated by not letting your true feelings be expressed. It feels like you're trying to be that person you don't want to be. The determination to be accepted by the people sometimes will lead someone into depression. This happens when someone is so desperate to be accepted but will not despite the hard work he has done.
Some people think that they must change themselves to be accepted. They thought that changing themselves to the people they wanted to be in will let them belong. It will just be temporary because if that happens they don't really accept who you really are. If people will not tolerate some of your flaws, they don't actually accept you because they only focus on the good side but not the bad side of you. Every one of us always has a bad side no matter how good someone is. No one is perfect, it's reasonable if all of a sudden someone might just explode. They're just being themselves because they think it's too much anymore.
It's nice to be praised or idolized, it's always amazing when someone loves us. However, it doesn't mean we need to restrain ourselves all the time. It's okay not to be okay is like accepting who you truly are. If you are not good with it, if you're not okay with it, or if you are not happy with it, it's okay as long as you don't lie to yourself. The pressure on your well-being is because you're afraid that people will not accept you. Here's a thing, no matter what you or how you do it. There are those people who will not accept you and there are those who will accept you. Don't be afraid not to be accepted because it's like having destined loved ones. It's written and for sure it will happen. That's why don't be hard on yourself and understand that you are okay for who you are. It's other people's loss for not letting you come into their lives. Don't stress out because it's okay not to be okay.
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ABOUT ME
Paul Ladrica is the name but prefers to be called mrnightmare that feels like living in the dream. A country boy and a dreamboy (dreamer) who likes to stay in a small village even though it means abandoning the future to become a seaman. The passion is writing but not sailing in the vague ocean. Don't wonder if the face will not be shown, this is better where the words can flow smoothly.